So, two years ago, in 2023, I posted a picture of my hand holding a Starbucks coffee in my car. I made the mistake of posting this on my Public Snapchat profile and not my friends only one. I got a DM from someone saying they’re on a military base and they’re not around much women, but they liked my hands and nails and wondered if I had cute feet. They wanted to pay me money to send feet pictures. I’d like to take accountability by realizing that’s incredibly weird and that I shouldn’t have followed it up, I should’ve blocked this person and wrote it off, but I didn’t. If I had done that, I wouldn’t be in the situation I am in now. I engaged and went back and forth and was like, “oh. Wellllll, he doesn’t seem like a weirdo, so okay. Maybe. We’ll see.” I was in a rough spot financially and thought, “oh, you want pictures of my feet for money? Deal.” Not the best judgement as I felt iffy about it when it happened, but I looked past my own personal moral compass. Clearly, I did it. I sent a total of four pictures: three of my feet and one of me bent over with my feet showing, and all in all, I got paid $140 for it. The whole time he and I are talking, he’s like, “you have really pretty feet. People would pay big money for your feet. You should think about selling pictures; not even just to me.” And I told him repeatedly this isn’t for me, you already paid and you’re not giving me the creeps, I just do it with you. I, however, never really felt good about it and honestly started feeling a bit shameful that I engaged like this with a stranger. It’s just not in my personal moral code. I wanna make it a point to say I support sex workers and their choice to do the things they wanna do for their money, but it’s just personally not for me. I hope I am not coming off as judgmental as that’s the last thing I wanna do; sex work is their work. I didn’t want to engage anymore. I sent him back the $140 through Cashapp, and on Snapchat, told him thank you for the help, but I’m just not interested in this anymore. He tried to push back, but I told him to keep the money, I didn’t want it. All in all, we talked for about three weeks to a month, maybe a month and a half.
Fast forward to now, 2025. I’m doing better and I haven’t sold any pictures since that one time. There’s this guy, who I’ve seen in passing since he runs in a crew of guys who I know and I’m actually really cool with, who continuously messages me on Snapchat. If I post a picture, he replies to it and tells me I am beautiful and that my feet are pretty, etc etc. I normally hearted his messages and go on about my way. However, he increasingly started asking me to sell him feet pictures, which I denied every single time and told him that’s not something I do, I’m not interested, please stop, I’ve been telling you no for years… no, no, NO. he then says to me two days ago, “it’s crazy that you’re telling me no when I’ve personally bought pictures from you before. But I guess you have an image to keep up. That’s nonsense. I know how to move with you now” in a Snapchat message. I’m like ??? Oh, shit. I piece things together. He lied about who he was, made an entirely new profile, and then hmu as if he never knew who I was. He pretended he was a stranger. I felt violated. I sent him a message back saying:
“ and if you did, that’s great. I hope you enjoyea them! It’s not “keeping up an image” for anything, I did it once with you and that was that. I don’t do it, period. That’s it, that’s all. It has nothing to do with me knowing you (which I barely do, l’ve seen you in passing here and there) but still. That’s kinda crazy to be like, two years later it was me the whole time, but it is what it is lol. I sent you pictures of my feet and you paid for them, that was it and I ended up sending you the money back anyway so what is the point?”
I then sent him another message and said, “God bless you!” as I’m trying not to be rude or upset him even though he was rude to me. I was scared if I really said how I felt, he would threaten me. He blocks me on Snapchat, then leaves a comment on a IG post of mine from a burner account, “ You sent them to ***********. I still have the screenshots & cash apps. Just make sure you don’t send those out or I will too” It almost seems to me as if he is shameful of paying for feet pictures and doesn’t want it come out. He also paid me one time to tell him about the last time I was intimate with someone and seemed to really get off on that. Under his actual account, He would always send messages like, “you don’t want a trick? You don’t want anyone to give you some money just for being pretty? I can keep a secret. Girls like guys with money.” I never put two and two together that the language and voice is the same as the account when he pretended to be a stranger and bought pictures of my feet.
Of note, I never got a notification he saved the four pictures I sent, so, it has me wondering if he took pictures of the screen from another phone and still has the pictures. I refunded him the money in full of what he sent me, so, I’m not understanding why he is bringing this up now, two years later. I did SS Snapchat messages; I wanted to have proof of what really went on in case he tried to put anything out and made it seem like it was more than what it truly was. I am now blocked on his burner IG, too. From his personal IG, he blocked me as well.
Since two days has passed and nothing has happened, I’m battling through emotions of fear, anxiety, embarrassment and most of all, shame. I’m shameful that I did such a thing for money when I didn’t feel good about it at all when I did it. I feel stupid and embarrassed that I got tricked by someone like this and now, this weirdo person has this thought of me in their head and they can release information (thank God, I have screenshots showing the full story), just bothers me. I know this may seem minor, but I’m struggling with my feelings. I just hope I can resolve them soon and I can put this situation behind me.
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This man didn’t just cross a line he ran past it with a mask on. Block him document everything and know his power dies the moment you stop letting shame speak louder than the truth.
That sounds like control and narcissism. That is not the behavior of typical NSFW buyers, i promise. If he keeps harassing you like that, file a report. Get a restraining order. Do whatever you need to do to protect yourself!!