I’m terrible at communicating and it’s ruining my 2 year relationship. I (M 53) don’t know how to communicate properly, my partner (F 52) says I never talk to her and that she can’t be with someone who doesn’t talk.
I don’t know how to start conversations. Last night she asked me to tell her a story from my past and I completely brain locked. I could not come up with anything and just sat there in silence. Understandably, she got very upset and it’s causing a crisis in our relationship.
I love this person and I want to fix this, but I don’t know where to begin. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR – I’m not good at talking and am looking for advice on how to improve.
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Hi dad!!
No but really, my father is like this and it’s so hard for everyone. He opens up sometimes and he’s such a cool, interesting person with a fascinating past but we only ever get glimpses of it from
time to time. I worry that when he dies I will have never really known him.
So I’m gonna tell you, there isn’t a how to communicate that I would prefer my dad to take up. I just wish he’d start yapping more often.
Start with this. Tell her you are bad a this and you want to do better and are struggling to do so. Acknowledge this as an issue and something you want to work on, and she may appreciate that.