I’m turning 40 soon and I’m still a virgin

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So yeah. Like the title says, I’m a 39 year old virgin, turning 40 in two weeks. I’ve told myself every single birthday that this is gonna be the year I finally change things. That I’ll lose it, maybe find someone. And every year, nothing changes. Still here. Still alone.

I’ve been trying. Like actually trying. I downloaded all the popular apps, set up my profile, put in effort. I even paid for premium a few times just to see who liked me, but even then it’s mostly bots or just nobody. It’s depressing. Months go by and I get zero attention. I don’t even know if it’s me or just how messed up these apps are. But deep down I keep wondering, maybe is it because I’m ugly? Like, truly unlovable?

I’m unemployed right now, yeah, but I haven’t given up. I’m trying to get my life together. I buy good clothes, take care of my hair and beard, skincare too. I’ve even got pics with a nice car (not mine, I know, but whatever) and still nothing. Not even a convo that goes anywhere.

And yeah, I even tried gay apps when things got real desperate. At least there I got more messages, but it still never led to anything. The one guy who seemed into me just changed his mind right before we were gonna meet. I don’t blame him. I guess I’m just… not enough.

At this point I’m not gonna lie to myself anymore. I don’t think next year’s gonna be different. I’m not gonna pretend I have some plan or motivation left. I’m just really tired.

Comments

  1. Skrskii Avatar

    Maybe go out more, you can’t meet any women if you just sit at home. Go to some clubs, offer to buy some drinks, you have to try at least

  2. Loud_Blacksmith2123 Avatar

    You may want to consider a premium hooker or a sexual surrogate.

  3. Solo_Entity Avatar

    Now dress up as Steve Carell for Halloween