In January, I moved across the country to start a life with my long distance boyfriend of over a year. Our relationship hasn’t been perfect, due to long distance causing intimacy issues/ my boyfriend having a porn addiction. I knew he watched porn and even used onlyfans in the past, but JFC. Almost immediately after getting here, I saw an email from cash app on his phone while I was using it for him while he was driving. He doesn’t have a cash app, or so he told me. It was for a fucking $300 charge so it realllly didn’t sit right with me. Later that night, I opened his email and saw dozens of emails from onlyfans and cash app, detailing thousands he’d spent on these girls who do not even care if he lives or dies. Thousands he’d spent while watching me stay up couponing, shop at 4-5 different grocery stores just to save $40, and spend hours cooking so we didn’t spend money eating out. He was “not doing as well financially” not because he was working less or making less money, but because all his money was going to internet cam girls. This lead into a conversation that revealed he had also cheated on me with his ex several months before after relapsing on Xanax. Ever since then, I’ve completely lost all respect and love for him. I honestly hate him. I dropped my whole life and moved all the way across the country for a man who is nothing like I thought he was. He’s fucking useless when it comes to taking care of a home or himself. He tells me IM freaking out when I ask him to clean up a mess he made. He half asses everything so I’ll stop asking him. If weaponized incompetence jumped out of a textbook and animorphed into a human it would be him. I was all ready to leave him, and then I got in a car accident. Insurance fucked me, so I’m just waiting to squeeze enough money from him to get my car fixed. I have no friends, family or community here. I signed a lease for my own place, got a job, and am saving my own money, but somehow taking his feels good as fuck. He talks about our future. I gag inside. He talks about the second cat we planned on getting. I giggle to myself. I genuinely don’t think he will ever find someone who will love him the way I did, but I also think a life of loneliness is what he deserves until he goes to fucking therapy
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And you saw no redflags before moving?
Do you plan on leaving? Please don’t waste your life on someone you despise. He sounds horrible.
You are the horrible person. Leave.
Regardless of what he may have done to you, you had and still have the opportunity to leave and find a better situation for yourself. You choose to stay and use him for money. That says something about you as well.
Karma is real, he’s getting what’s coming to him but will you? Think about it
Please just leave him.
Leave him your acting as bad as him.
What about your own dignity and self respect? Sure you are going to get a bunch of dude bro’s cursing you out as a response on here, but seriously though just walk away and never look back.
I kinda understand. But think of the relief you’ll feel when you’ve finally left him!
While your boyfriend could improve on some things, and cheating on you would understandably cause you to fall out of love, your glee in screwing him over does not put you in good light either.
What’s sad is as unhappy as you both are, he’ll lose you and he’ll probably get his shit together as a result of it and you’ll both find better people
Offff girl this isn’t a road you want to walk.
Feeding into revenge isn’t going to make you happy trust me.
It makes you look worse and immature 🙁
Hurt people hurt people. Dont be the cycle
Is it me only? Or someone else also thinks here that you’re doing not much different. Just leave? 🤔 🤷🏼♂️
But if he says he has money problems and you caught him giving thousands to these women, how is he going to give you money to get your car fixed to leave?