I love my father in law, my MIL on the other hand…She is incredibly obnoxious. She had “heard” all about me so the first time she met me, she thought it would be a great idea to start asking me detailed questions about the most painful, shitty, horrible things in life that have happened to me. She tried pressured me into having kids, I was 40 at the time and she KNEW I had several previous pregnancy losses and physically cannot try again.) She had a meltdown when I didn’t let her have neon dyed gerbera daisies when I married her son. She is racist as fuck, she is transphobic, and homophobic and is upset when I shut her ass down. She used to send me like 100+ reels on instagram a day with Mormon messages and baby shit. I had to block her.
She reminds me of my stepmom who has zero boundaries and if you don’t agree with her 100% of the time she gets angry and defensive. She does passive aggressive bullshit like get me a huge make up mirror and big make up bag when she knows all I wear are two shades of eyeshadow and mascara. I fucking hate her.
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Yeah, sounds like a dumpster fire wrapped in a nightmare. You’re basically hosting a walking red flag convention. Just brace yourself, stock up on wine, and remember: you don’t owe her a single ounce of patience.
Your MIL sounds like a nightmare cocktail of ignorance and entitlement. Blocking was your best move, boundaries aren’t optional with people like that. Keep shutting her down; she’s not worth a second of your energy.
Sounds like your MIL peaked at “worst human.” Blocking was self-care 101. Keep your distance and save your sanity. Some people are just not worth the headache.
She sounds like the human embodiment of a pop-up ad, intrusive, irrelevant, and impossible to get rid of without blocking. Keep that distance; your sanity’s worth more than politeness.
That sounds incredibly draining and stressful. It’s tough when someone in your life consistently crosses boundaries, disrespects you, and brings negativity, especially from family. Keeping your distance, setting clear boundaries, and protecting your peace is totally valid here. You don’t owe her your energy or patience, especially with behavior like that. Have you been able to talk with your partner about how you feel? It might help to have their support when dealing with your MIL.
That’s not a MIL, that’s a walking red flag. Honestly, you’re doing yourself a favor blocking her. No one needs that toxicity smothered in passive aggression and bad intentions. Keep your boundaries tight and don’t feel guilty for shutting that nonsense down hard. You don’t have to entertain a hate show.