Quick summary – my husband and I got engaged Jan 2023. Pregnant May 2023. In laws moved across the country to our state in Nov 2023. During all of this, my pregnancy became theirs. The amount of stress I was put through made both pregnancy and post partum awful for me. Too much drama on MIL and SIL’s part. My FIL has zero back bone.
There’s been drama, racism, arguments, distance, low contact, boundaries + reconciliation then back again. They hate me. They don’t like me. MIL has called me names. Has talked about ME to my brother’s wife, to other family members of their family, etc. My family (parents, brother and SIL) stopped contact bc they opened their doors to them, made them feel part of our family. Hosted holidays. Etc and MIL has a raging jealousy towards my family/mom. It’s been a lot. Too much.
Today MIL texted DH. “Hey, our house was listed yesterday and we are hoping for quick sale. Heading back east to be with family and friends.
Wish you all the best DH and remember we will always have your back if and when you need us and will love you forever and ever. Mom”
I have all of them blocked. MIL, FIL, SIL. Bc weeks ago they implied my DH was somehow in danger by being married to me. SIL accused me of texting her from a burner (yes I know) and just soooo much and that was the last straw for me. They will never see my child again. Which is the only reason they moved here (!!!!)
For the last year+ I’ve felt crazy, mentally unwell, anxious beyond measure, stressed, etc. it has caused fights in my marriage. It has caused both of us so much stress. I’ve been bad mouthed to people I have never even met and will probably never meet because of it. All because I married this man, and began a family? All because I demand respect, don’t sweep things under the rug, don’t like being disrespected, don’t like passive aggression, don’t like drama?
Am I reading too much into the text or is she implying “we’ll be here when you decide to leave her.”
Thanks for reading! I think I’m crashing out lol
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Your interpretation is 100% correct.
You are correct in what she’s saying.
Thats exactly what shes saying. Martyr til the end
>Am I reading too much into the text or is she implying “we’ll be here when you decide to leave her.”
Oh, that is 100% what she is implying.
But that doesn’t matter as long as you and your husband have each others’ backs.
And they’re leaving (assuming this isn’t a ploy to get him to beg them to stay).
Just grit your teeth, keep them blocked, & wait it out.
Then live your life with your family and never see them again.
You’ve got this!