My grandma, but she’s in a much better place now. She passed when she was 95 and the last few years of her life were pretty much bed bound, and it took a toll on my aunt because she was her primary caregiver.
She occasionally appears in my dreams and sometimes she’s with my grandpa, so I know she is happy in the afterlife.
My 3 close friends – 1 was her insecurities pushing everyone, 1 got with an abusive POS and he succeeded in isolating her, and the other 1 I got caught in a crossfire of a fight and got manipulated into picking a side by the first 1 mentioned here lol. I did however just properly reconcile with her though, eventhough our friendship will never be the same again.
My virginity
My love for dogs – working at a dog daycare completely ruined that for me. Even the bosses at the dog daycare didn’t care about the dogs and only cared about profits.
My sanity tbh – life looks more grim and grim every fucking day. I’m just so goddamn tired some times. I wish humans had a hibernation period..
My younger cousin, succumbed to difficulties after enduring a traumatic brain injury almost 6 years ago after a dump truck failed to stop and pulled out in front of him on his motorcycle.
Sidenote: it always gets better. Aside from loss, I also overcame alcoholism (2.5 years sober), am in the best relationship I’ve ever been in, and gave birth to my rainbow baby almost 6 months ago.
Many things: I’ve lost weight just to gain it all back and then some, my mom, my cat, my college grant, my car, the home I rented for over 4 years and some days the will to keep going. Im working on losing the weight again, got a new car, reapplied to college and am in a new rental that I love more and still have one cat remaining, and now that im properly medicated I no longer have lost the will to keep going. I lost so much but also gained a husband, a job I love and the urge to live my life to the fullest. You win some, you lose some but you never give up.
My apartment, my beloved cat, my freedom, lol. About 2 years ago I lost a lot of weight that I had gained from an ulcer. I got everything back except the kitty, I’m working on suing the person who stole him.
I “fired” my ex bf.
Lost my home and pet that I had with him
Lost around 35kg
Lost 3 jobs within marketing/project manager field because of corona/bankrupcy and stress
At one point I seriously lost my will to live
But I also gained
Self worth
A man I am going to marry that motivates me so much to be better
A masters degree in IT, organization and communication (in three weeks teehee)
And some kind of clarity
My old personality, about 60lbs, one of my cats, my grandma, my pregnancy, my brother, toxic relationships, my favourite jeans T_T ^(where did they gooo)
My desire to understand everything and everyone. I lost the raving need to care about every little thing and police peoples behavior. I also lost the cop in my head lol
two friends, a family friend and my father passed away.
i lost my friend group.
i gained and lost a relationship.
a job.
many opportunities.
i lost independence, my sense of being grounded within myself and the world. my passion, drive and and sense of self.
my willingness to participate in life.
my mental health.
now, i’m on track for losing my anxiety, self hatred and emptiness. i’ve grown fundamentally as a human being, and even though the last 5 years have hurt like a motherfucker, i’m starting to see a path ahead and i’m honestly excited. thanks for asking such a thoughtful question <3 what did you lose, OP?
3 jobs. My dad. A long time friendship (to trump). And the worst- my youngest son, to estrangement, of me and all his family and friends. And no one has any idea at all why. We were always close and I called him my golden child. It’s a heartbreak like no other.
4 jobs. A toxic ex. My favourite pair of shoes that I had for 20 years. Unintentional weight. A best guy friend. My dogs. My phone number which I had for 10 years.
The right to abortion. Any respect for the religious right. Any respect for men. My faith in our leaders to stand up. All the fucks I was born with. You wanna dehumanize me? I’ll burn you to the ground.
Realizing five years ago was peak COVID lockdowns is throwing me hard.
I still work from home and I’ve seriously lost my ability to deal with people and crowds and noise and small talk. It’s like it was a muscle that has atrophied away because I don’t use it regularly anymore.
It’s not a loss in a detrimental way, these are just things I’m increasingly aware I no longer have a means to tolerate.
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Interest.
2 very close friends. One year apart from each other. 🕊️
social battery
My marbles
time. it constantly feels like i’m chasing something that doesn’t exist
Not the college weight, I’ll tell you that.
My youth!
Family support
A few pounds and the patience to listen to people complain about their lives.
my passion;
my mental peace;
2 breakups;
my happiness;
energy to do something;
people.
My sanity
My father and guilt over the life I enjoy.
My dad.
My pregnancy, my best friend, my job, my job again, and tolerance for bullsh*t
My uterus and all reproductive organs. Oh and all my friends right after 🙃
my unborn child, my mental stability, my voice, my self worth.
Hope for a perfect partner
My job, 30lbs, and my will to put up with corporate America.
My uncle (grief never ends), my naivety and bubby personality, lung health (thanks covid), one toxic friend (good riddance), my ability to lose weight
My mother.
180 pounds
Procrastination, depression and negative vibes
Honestly will to live. Not in depression kind of way, but in general. The older I get, the less I like it.
My grandma, but she’s in a much better place now. She passed when she was 95 and the last few years of her life were pretty much bed bound, and it took a toll on my aunt because she was her primary caregiver.
She occasionally appears in my dreams and sometimes she’s with my grandpa, so I know she is happy in the afterlife.
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Weight
My dad (just this month, so still pretty raw)
My sweet old man cat
50 pounds
A lot of faith in humanity
My house, my belongings and everything I’ve known for so long.
Gained and lost 100 lbs since Covid.
Job
I lost myself, almost exactly 5 years ago. To an abusive relationship that I still cry about… talk about Stockholm syndrome…
My 2 best friends and my street family
The right to make heath decisions about my own body.
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Social battery. Life honestly just feels like a routine now.
175 pounds and my depression.
Who I was
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My 3 close friends – 1 was her insecurities pushing everyone, 1 got with an abusive POS and he succeeded in isolating her, and the other 1 I got caught in a crossfire of a fight and got manipulated into picking a side by the first 1 mentioned here lol. I did however just properly reconcile with her though, eventhough our friendship will never be the same again.
My virginity
My love for dogs – working at a dog daycare completely ruined that for me. Even the bosses at the dog daycare didn’t care about the dogs and only cared about profits.
My sanity tbh – life looks more grim and grim every fucking day. I’m just so goddamn tired some times. I wish humans had a hibernation period..
My first pregnancy.
My marriage.
My mental health.
My nana, to cancer.
My younger cousin, succumbed to difficulties after enduring a traumatic brain injury almost 6 years ago after a dump truck failed to stop and pulled out in front of him on his motorcycle.
Sidenote: it always gets better. Aside from loss, I also overcame alcoholism (2.5 years sober), am in the best relationship I’ve ever been in, and gave birth to my rainbow baby almost 6 months ago.
Interest
My self
Fire to do grow
True Friends
Career
Two grandparents, an uncle, a lot of relationships
Many things: I’ve lost weight just to gain it all back and then some, my mom, my cat, my college grant, my car, the home I rented for over 4 years and some days the will to keep going. Im working on losing the weight again, got a new car, reapplied to college and am in a new rental that I love more and still have one cat remaining, and now that im properly medicated I no longer have lost the will to keep going. I lost so much but also gained a husband, a job I love and the urge to live my life to the fullest. You win some, you lose some but you never give up.
My apartment, my beloved cat, my freedom, lol. About 2 years ago I lost a lot of weight that I had gained from an ulcer. I got everything back except the kitty, I’m working on suing the person who stole him.
2 beloved (and very elderly) cats, grandma, uncle, respect for most of my family, and an internal organ.
The fear of having to get old alone (without a man)
So. Much. Sleep. (My oldest kid turns five in a few weeks lol)
My job. Twice. Layoffs suck.
All the flucks in the world
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My dad and my husband ❤️🩹
My nana, my soul dog, a dead-end job, my 20s, and the relationship with my father
It’s been a rough few years 🥲
Happiness lol
Both my parents.
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An engagement
Furniture and personal items since I had to leave them in his big infested home
My reproductive rights
I lost the need for external validation. I stopped caring about what others think of me
My dog. I loved him so much it hurt. I miss him all the time. It’s been over two years now.
Everything. I am rebuilding myself and my life a little piece at a time.
110 lbs and a toxic husband
Hair
I “fired” my ex bf.
Lost my home and pet that I had with him
Lost around 35kg
Lost 3 jobs within marketing/project manager field because of corona/bankrupcy and stress
At one point I seriously lost my will to live
But I also gained
Self worth
A man I am going to marry that motivates me so much to be better
A masters degree in IT, organization and communication (in three weeks teehee)
And some kind of clarity
The last 20 lbs I’ve been trying to lose forever!!!
My old personality, about 60lbs, one of my cats, my grandma, my pregnancy, my brother, toxic relationships, my favourite jeans T_T ^(where did they gooo)
My best friend.
My Job. Ambition in life. Lots of brain cells
My goddamn mind
My desire to understand everything and everyone. I lost the raving need to care about every little thing and police peoples behavior. I also lost the cop in my head lol
two friends, a family friend and my father passed away.
i lost my friend group.
i gained and lost a relationship.
a job.
many opportunities.
i lost independence, my sense of being grounded within myself and the world. my passion, drive and and sense of self.
my willingness to participate in life.
my mental health.
now, i’m on track for losing my anxiety, self hatred and emptiness. i’ve grown fundamentally as a human being, and even though the last 5 years have hurt like a motherfucker, i’m starting to see a path ahead and i’m honestly excited. thanks for asking such a thoughtful question <3 what did you lose, OP?
30 lbs, an alcohol dependency, and a lot of earrings and socks
My estrogen. Menopause is great if you can get past all the bullshit physical symptoms and embrace the new ability to not give a shit.
2 jobs, I work in mortgages. It’s not the best market so layoffs are rampant.
My mind.
Patience lol
My sanity and health (enrolled in nursing school)
My will to live.
3 jobs. My dad. A long time friendship (to trump). And the worst- my youngest son, to estrangement, of me and all his family and friends. And no one has any idea at all why. We were always close and I called him my golden child. It’s a heartbreak like no other.
My hair.
5 stone and a couple of fucks 😃
Youth and with it, my stamina.
My job
My friend of 20 years to Covid
My neighbor who was like my adopted
grandma
My fallopian tubes
My ability to shit like a normal person thanks to a Dr error removing said tubes
My will to live
My give a shit
My modesty
A lot of money
Two of my cats
My aunt to suicide
Don’t worry… I’ve been in therapy almost a year now
Two wisdom teeth and my flat belly (currently very pregnant)
My home
My Grandparents
Mostly time though. I feel like the clocking is constantly ticking down and I don’t know why.
My partner, best friend, soulmate.
Motivation to keep existing in this harsh world.
My soul dog, Denver, to cancer. Golden retriever and only 3.5 years old. Still not over it
120 pounds
a lot of hair ties
Fucks to give.
25lbs yaaay
Social battery, energy, time, my dream job but in a not so good company.
My uterus. It’s a happy loss.
A lot of my freedom
A terrible spouse and shared friends.
I gained confidence, stability, happiness, a peaceful home, happier children, and the feeling that life is going where I want it.
Sometimes you’ve just gotta make space.
The ability to eat gluten 🥲
Friends that don’t have the same morals as me.
My female friends.
My mama.
50 lbs. My ex. My faith in humanity since covid.
My virginity. My sanity. My trust.
Not any weight, that’s for sure 😂
I’ve lost a couple of what I thought were “best” or “really good” friends. 4/5 of my childhood dogs passed away too. 2024 was kinda rough I guess 😅
My decade long mental health issues. Thank God.
A lot honestly! The end of 2019 was the start of a continuous dark period in my life.
4 family members, 2 jobs, 1 serious relationships, all my fucks.
My fear of displeasing my mother
My will to survive 🤣🥂🏋🏽♀️
An entire friend group and a secure paying job
My faith in humanity
4 jobs. A toxic ex. My favourite pair of shoes that I had for 20 years. Unintentional weight. A best guy friend. My dogs. My phone number which I had for 10 years.
Pple I loved! I walked away of my own free will
My virginity. Whoop whoop
My patience. My willingness to let people walk over me.
My marriage. But found a better life waiting
My religion and my virginity lol
All the fucks I had left to give
Hope
fucks. I have none left for anybody else’s nonsense. And I should have done this a long time ago.
The right to abortion. Any respect for the religious right. Any respect for men. My faith in our leaders to stand up. All the fucks I was born with. You wanna dehumanize me? I’ll burn you to the ground.
Because my oldest child is 5, boy do I have a list. Some good some bad.
Friends who weren’t really friends.
Lots of money for lawyers
Faith in the justice system (which is really hard for me personally)
The need to be a people pleaser
A pregnancy (had a miscarriage)
My purpose in life
Respect for a lot of family members
My patience. A lot.
Realizing five years ago was peak COVID lockdowns is throwing me hard.
I still work from home and I’ve seriously lost my ability to deal with people and crowds and noise and small talk. It’s like it was a muscle that has atrophied away because I don’t use it regularly anymore.
It’s not a loss in a detrimental way, these are just things I’m increasingly aware I no longer have a means to tolerate.
My best friend (she ghosted me)
My sense of sanity and security in the world
Oh, and 150lbs.
Any reason to live
The weight of other peoples expectations
An abusive partner, 13 kgs, masking, self-doubt.
Hope in a better future. Sorry kids.
my sanity
Quite a bit.
My father
My interest
My 16yr old cat
My physical fitness
160lbs. Had gastric bypass, best decision I have ever made.
My soul dog. Biggest loss in my life.
my will to live
My mobility. Completely unable to walk now. Surgeries will be had over this next year..but I am missing being able to walk.