i have been blessed by the height part (6ft) but the buddy down there is atrociously small, i don’t have any experiences yet so can’t comment. But, 2.5 inches when flaccid and 4.9 inches at max length and it ain’t even that girthy. Idk why I’m being too insecure about it
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Sorry homie, better focus on that bread
Porn is probably why. Nothing healthy or safe you can do about it. Embrace it and be the best you can be. Most people don’t actually care about the size past you.
4.9 inches isn’t huge but it’s far from what IMO people think of when they think “small penis”. You’re fine
You don’t need a big dick to get a woman off…
Find someone who makes you better (and you in return make better) and you’ll figure it out…
5 inches isn’t even small…
Definitely a shower and not a grower then.. my penis can be practically just a head sometimes.. but will grow to over 6 inches
I hate locker rooms and shit because im not hard and I feel embarrassed but I know it grows a lot
4.9 bone pressed?
Are you fat? (They fat pad east up an inch plus)
Lesbians do fine… Get good with your hands, mouth, and most importantly romantic game… Dick is mostly a nice to have.
The g spot is only like 2 inches in anyhow
you will be fine. learn how to be a pleaser (eat the box) and you will receive praise
That’s not small, it’s average. Porn is giving us a wrong impression of both female and male bodies.
If you’re overweight, losing weight will help. Otherwise, better a skillful 5 inch then a 7 inch idiot. Just be a considerate lover.
OP wants other dudes to post their sizes so he can compare and feel less bad about himself….kinda strange behavior
Some chicks are size queens and will care. Most will not. If your tongue works well, you’re good.
5 inches is average size. You being taller may just make it look less proportional. But the average vagina depth to the g-spot is only like 2-4 inches. So you can have sex with the average woman and she enjoy it and so will you. You also have 10 fingers and a tongue so learn to use them
That’s bigger than micro. Yeah, that’s on the small end of average, but you have a tongue and fingers right?
Looks like you’re basically a little under average, and your height probably isn’t helping perception wise. But you don’t have a micropenis or anything, so there could be worse?
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The average length of an erect penis is between 5.1 and 5.5 inches (13.0 – 13.9 cm). Average flaccid length is around 3.6 inches (9.1 cm). Girth measurements also vary, with average erect girth around 4.6 inches (11.7 cm). Here’s a more detailed breakdown:
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A micropenis is defined as a small penis that is significantly below the average size for age and development.
You have an average size penis, as long as It works and you know what are you doing YOU ARE FINE
Google it. You’re about average.
Hi, I’m basically you, though a bit shorter.
Porn is why I felt insecure. I thought every dude was out there with massive dicks.
Let me tell you – in real life, my penis size has had very little to do with how women feel about me. We’re more then our penises. I’ll also add that other than one woman I dated, the rest have all had orgasms via piv and via all the other fun ways.
Prosper!
5in is average, the g spot(the exposed part of the clitoris inside the vagina) is like 2-3inches in so youre flacid dick could hit it.
Even dudes with big dicks can be bad at sex, learn which positions get your partner off the best, the key is to pay attention to your partners responses to what youre doing, youll figure out what she likes with practice or communication.
I wouldn’t worry too much and just try to be the best in bed as possible, with a bit of effort, youll be better than most guys out there.
Just make sure when the time comes you know how to please her. Women don’t care all that much about the size as long as you focus on their pleasure. It’s cliche but it’s true.
By the time you are at the stage where you’re intimate with a woman, nobody’s worried about dick size. They’re into you and you’re into them (assumingly)
Are you in a relationship? Have you been rejected over this? Until it’s ACTUALLY an issue, move past it. Because right now it’s just in your head.
That is well within the range of normal, my dude.
5 inches is fucking HUGE bro stop flexing on us
You are actually at about average i think. The ones who care dont matter and the ones who matter wont care. Focus on other things that are more important.
You find someone that wants and loves you, you’ll be fine. If a talented finger and a tongue can satisfy a woman, 4 +/- inches can too.
When the time comes (not on purpose) you pay attention to her needs. When she responds positively to something make it part of your moves. And that goes for kissing her neck, sucking an earlobe, licking her – you get the point.
Having a huge wang isn’t that important if she cares about you and you learn to get the job done.
Find a way to be at peace with your body. Don’t shame yourself. Or let society get to you either.
Focus on loving all do you inside and out the best you can day in and day out. You’ll event be steered wrong if you get that habit down.
Wake up and be grateful for the day and don’t focus on the things we can’t change.
Foreplay is where the bread and butter are and you’ll find someone who loves and trust you enough and you’ll be enough for them.
I’m prolly just a smidge bigger than 4.9 prolly like 5.4 but let’s just round up you’re like 5.2 prolly fully extended and right angle and I’m 6 lol boy math. Oh and I didn’t get the height lol 5’8 on a good day but with boots I’m 5,10 lol
Seriously tho. Once I started loving who I am and not rejecting the parts I don’t like. Life starting happening and me and my person have amazing out do this world sex. I feel like a p star no joke lol
So focus on loving yourself and knowing you can’t change some things people want to love people who are authentic and real and genuine.
Good luck and be safe.
You’re not big, and it may look even smaller due to your size, nut you don’t have a micropenis, which means you can fuck. Yes, some positions will be pretty much out of question, and some will be your best friends. Make yourself a great catch, and master fingers and tongue, and most women will be fine if you’re a good man and can get them off. A good man is much harder to find than a good dick. Also, check r/realitydick if you wanna see women enjoying guys like you and some much, much smaller.
Seems totally average. You good king
Brushing 5 inches ain’t exactly tiny, there are a ton of women out there that actually look for guys in the under 6 inch realm. In fact, a common sentiment is they’d happily prefer a below average partner that knows how to work it vs a hung guy who has awful technique.
Your insecurity in your body is going to lose you more opportunities than your size ever could. Don’t let it get the best of you, there ain’t anything wrong with what you’ve got to work with.
Avg penis is 5 inches
Tbh, you sound just like me. I’m ~6’3” with similar if not exact same measurements, literally.
I’m not sure how old you are but I’m turning 40 this year and none of my partners have cared at all. One commented she “thought I’d be bigger” but didn’t stop her from continuing to suck/fuck it multiple times over; that’s the only time my size has ever been mentioned.
I’m married with two kids now and I know for a fact my wife has had bigger than me, significantly in certain cases. She says nothing but positive things and continues to crave it; she actually gets upset with me and will correct me if I reference it as small. The kicker is she’s objectively hot, too.
I used to be insecure about it so can relate to you but realized there’s no reason to be at all. You’re just fine, go slay.
I’m pretty sure 5 is average so I would not say 4.9 is small.
Relevant: https://youtu.be/3dFHa31qxQ8?si=bl10BPKKLvP25Ok1
Most women don’t orgasm from penetration; they orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Get good at oral and you’ll be fine.
If you find a woman that isn’t cool with your parts then find another woman.
Some women like big dicks. Some women like average dicks. Most women prefer one that is smaller than one that is too big. Most women can’t measure and wouldn’t know if your 4.9incher isn’t actually a 5.9 incher.
Bro, this question gets asked every second of every day somewhere on Reddit.
So here’s your reassurance. Go on any of the various women’s subs – askwomenover30, askwomenover40, askwomennocensor, etc, etc. These are anonymous boards where ANYONE can ask ANY question or discuss any concern on their mind without limitation.
Follow them for days, for weeks, for months, and you will see the issues that concern women, because they come up repeatedly in relationships with men: abuse (physical and mental), manipulation, lack of emotional availability, zero concern for caring if their partner gets off during sex, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc. The list is like a mile long.
You know what you never, ever see? Women posting: “Man, love this guy, but his dick is an inch too small, what a fuckin loser. So unsatisfied.” Literally, fucking, never. In fact, you know what most women post? “Is he even aware that he should be playing with my clit? Does he understand my anatomy?”
Now, here’s the mindblowing thing. The only reason guys care about dick size is for the sake of other guys. It’s men who decided “just have a big dick and she’ll be sexually satisfied,” not women. Men reinforce it amongst other men as a sign of masculinity, of worth, of value. So it’s can be mentally crushing if there’s any minor reason to be ashamed.
But now put this in context to realize how goofy it is:
Women: I like this man, he’s funny and nice, but he’s so emotionally unavailable. I tried to connect about a very serious issue that I was dealing with, and all he wanted to do is fix it, and he just doesn’t understand I wasn’t looking for him to fix it, I just wanted to share my emotional distress with him. It’s these kinds of conversations that make me feel a distance, and it hurts because I feel I can’t be vulnerable with me.
Guy: She’s probably disappointed in my dick size.
No joke. Every time you get concerned, just think: you’re only worried because you want other men to be impressed by your dick. There. Now get it out of your system.
There’s more important things to worry about in life..
It’s a total myth perpetuated by online ‘standards’ that men must have have a big dick to be desirable.
Like many things like it irl a completely different world.
I’m quite a big lad (early forties) and when I get my clothes off I have quite a few comments from woman along the lines of “I hate big dicks”.
New partners do get used to it as it’s actually me they are getting used to and not my dick.
I’m guessing you’re quite young however don’t get preoccupied with shite like this.
I’m not preaching, when I was younger I used to worry about all kinds of things which just aren’t important at all.
I wish I could write a letter to my younger self…
r/gettingbigger might be worth a look if you really want to make a change
Dude, penis size has become this cultural talking point that’s almost completely separate from the actual bedroom experience. Sure in extremes, size can matter, but for the vast majority of us, it’s about technique. Go pickup a copy of She Comes First. You’ll learn some things. First, many women don’t consistently climax from vaginal sex alone. In the book they discuss foreplay, coreplay, and vaginal sex. Coreplay is where she’s comes first (ideally). Use your hand. Use your tongue. Once she’s taken care of first, she will then be primed to climax with you during vaginal sex. In foreplay you kiss, pet, pinch, grab, rub. Vaginal sex is the climax where men climax. It’s the end of the deal. Don’t worry about size. Worry about the experience, start to finish.
Edit: typos
Edit2: as mentioned in other comments, and what I’m alluding to is that it’s about clitoral stimulation first.
Multiple factors can influence your erect length.
First off the most commonly cited studies involve a “bone pressed length” which I’ll leave you to look up. Typically people have an extra .5” more, and the averages of those studies sits around the 5-5.5” length. This also plays a role in how obesity affects length in studies. When in doubt get a bit leaner.
Next is your cardio, better blood pumping = better erection.
Other have covered porn and the way it skews our perceptions, not to mention ruin the psychological effects it can have on arousal.
While it’s not huge, and probably taking in the above info still won’t be considered huge, it’s going to be average. What that means is there’s ~50% of men smaller. So I’d say you’re good my man!
There are some girls out there who care about size but in my experience they’re in the minority. And if that’s all they care about then you’re doing yourself a favor by avoiding them. Porn is absolutely damaging to men in this manner too. Only dudes who have absolutely massive dongs make it in porn videos. I don’t think it sounds like you have as much to worry about as you probably feel like, for what it’s worth.
I have been told by multiple partners as well as female friends that emotional connection, chemistry, enthusiasm and communication are all WAY more important when it comes to sexual satisfaction than penis size
Any girl that’s turned off by the time they get that far isn’t someone you want to be with.
I got a tiny pee pee, I also have 5 kids and had a plethora of girlfriends and partners before I settled down. There is a lot of truth to “it’s not the size of the ship, it’s the motion in the ocean”.
That sounds about average. Take a look at Doc Hink’s YouTube channel, he has some excellent commentary about enlargement as well as what is safe and what is not safe. Hint: it is a slow process.
Date an Asian girl…they just need 4”
You can make it a little longer by losing some weight.
Average penis size, measured from pelvic bone, is 5 to 5.5 inches. You’re fine.
I’ve never quite understood this problem. Like, she’s not going to see it until you already get her in bed, so what’s the big deal? I can’t imagine she’s just going to leave just before the act.
4.9 isn’t small.
You need to calibrate your
ethusiasimjudgement.4.9 inches isn’t “pretty small”. It’s a little under the average size. Will some girls care? Of course. Will most care? No. If you are overweight, try to lose weight. If you are obese, then you will definitely look bigger once you lose the fat.
You’re worried about the wrong thing. You’re a virgin and worried about penis size. No woman knows your penis size. There are guys with 4 inch slongs getting laid all the time
That’s small, but unless you’re filming porn, it doesn’t really matter, most chicks you’re actually in a relationship with won’t care. It’s the one night stands with people you know you have to worry about. Girls do talk, much more so if they have no ties to you.
I’ve (36m) had sex with numerous women and none of them have complained about or judged me regarding the size of my penis (about 5.5″ when hard). It may have helped that I always engage in a lot of foreplay including cunnilingus (which I actually find more enjoyable than the actual sex itself tbh), so the women are more likely satisfied by that, that dick size isn’t really an issue.
That’s pretty average. Any longer and most women would complain about you poking their cervix. Length really isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
Muthafucka making it sound like he has a micropenis or some shit in his post when he’s basically dead average.
Dude’s been watching way too much porn while also never having googled the average penis size even once by 2025, lmao
I’d trade in a heartbeat! You could be hung like a tripod, but it won’t matter if you’re under 6′ tall and available women have already made their decision about you before you get to “Hello”.
Also, to reiterate what everyone else is saying, your size is fine. You’re not huge, but you’re not what I’d even classify as small, let alone so small as to be problematic. You can get the job done.
Train yourself to last longer, and do full strokes. Do that and find a real women and you will be alright.
Think of this, lots of women have experienced larger men, but it’s never good enough to stay in a relationship with them for it. . It’s not that important.
You and I are close to the same size, you’ll be fine. My mind was warped by porn before I figured it out. Women also have an average size. Of all the women I slept with there was only 1 where I couldn’t reach her cervix and she was barely 5 feet and Asian, and your goal shouldn’t be to reach it anyway. You only need 2-4 inches to reach her G spot. Hands and tongue help a lot to get her squirming. PiV to me is way less than half of the love making.
Women, and a lot of men, care way more about other factors of a relationship than sex. Libido, drive, compatibility will be more of a factor with the sex part anyway.
Best of luck and stop comparing to others.
First of all you’re basically average.
Secondly, as most others have said, what matters is that you’re attentive and responsive. Listen when a partner tells you what she wants/likes/needs and try to give her that. Don’t let previous experience or a priori knowledge confuse you; listen to your partner. Assuming you’re on the younger side and therefor your partner likely will be too, she may not entirely know what works for her yet but that doesn’t mean you can’t ask and deliberately explore, figuring her out together. Most women aren’t all that into a blue ribbon gourd jackhammering away at their guts. Younger guys often believe that’s what women want because that tends to be all that younger men are good at.
Physiologically speaking length almost never matters. It can broaden your options when it comes to various positions but ultimately the real target is right up front. Most women can be brought to orgasm without penetration, and when surveyed most women don’t cite penetration as having much if anything to do with their orgasm. That’s not to say don’t bother, of course, just to say that end of things is generally way less of a priority for her than you.
It isn’t small + Learn to use it correctly and it will be ok for you and your partner. Also disclose your age. It grows till certain age you know?
With a few exceptions most women really don’t care about size nearly as much as guys do. And length isn’t as important as girth and with many women it’s more about external than internal. Stop focusing on that and spend the effort on listening and communications. That’s far more important to women than size IMO. You have what you have and focus on what you can change. And take this as a silver lining, there are some things that the truly big guys are truly not going to get or even get them to nope out of the situation because it’s overly painful.
Also helps to keep your hair down there shaved or trimmed short.
Stick it in her ass. She won’t think it’s small then. If she does, you know she’s not the one.
No need to worry about your size, you’re average length. Ask 80% of women and they’ll tell you girth and skill are more important anyways. Don’t compare your size to others though, it’ll only make you develop body dysmorphia. Besides being bigger isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, you miss out only good oral, anal, and quickies.
Think of it this way. Lesbians make it work with zero inches all the time. If you’re self-conscious about size and ability to stay hard, etc… you don’t need to use it to make a woman happy. Mouth, finger, breath, she’ll be puddy in your hands.
That’s around average…. don’t use porn as a judge.
Similar to you. Out of 60+ partners, have literally had ONE where what I had just couldn’t get it done.
I’m also NOT a doctor, so ya got that going for ya.
Maybe a quick read of r/bigdickproblems might make you feel better. About 10 years ago, there was this trend going around where you took a toilet paper roll and compared your rock-hard, purple helmet warrior to the cardboard roll inside: if you were longer than the roll or your meat wagon too thick to fit through the hole, that was considered “she absolutely feels this” territory.
Now, I have a friend who meets neither of these criteria and has pleased many a woman. This is all to say that you have a spectacularly average hog and women will appreciate it. Nothing to be ashamed of, homie.
Dude it’s average. You’re above average height. I’d suggest watching less porn.
You’re still on the lower range of an average grower. Lots of things you can do to bolster your confidence though. Every man should know how to work his tongue and fingers regardless of his member size. Don’t be intimidated by a woman’s toys, those are your teammates not your enemies. There are also sleeves you can wear that add a little extra length and girth. A vibrating cock ring can turn any dick into a thumper…. Don’t sweat it my guy, embrace the modern era.
The average penis size is like 5.5 inches so don’t sweat it, tiny
In addition to what everyone is (accurately) telling you about your penis being perfectly average size, don’t lose the fact that you are tall, which many women will find attractive. So all told you’re coming out ahead on two factors you can’t do anything about. Work on attraction factors you can do something about (weight, physique, grooming) and you’ll be killing it.
Stop watching porn and comparing yourself to unrealistic bodies.
Youre fine. I read the other day about a guy whos so big he generally finds it hard to find anybody who he can fit into, making good sex rare for him and the woman.
Youre big enough. Nobody cares to be too big.
You don’t need a massive vessel to sail the seas my friend.
Learn to eat pussy really well and have conversations with your partner about how to best get her off with PIV sex. The rest will fall into place after that.
If you make them cum with your fingers and mouth, having an average size penis is absolutely fine
Bro that’s not even small 💀
Like yeah you’re not big by any means (and thus ‘small’ by like, 2025 standards) but the way you were describing it made me expect micropenis stats or something. If you don’t believe me just put your numbers in calcsd instead:
https://calcsd.info/testicular
A lot of people prefer a smaller one
It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.
Why do you care the size of a flaccid penis? Honest question
There’s a very good reason why you are insecure. Our culture is obsessed with large penises. TV shows joke about it, movies joke about it, kids on the playground harass each other over it. It’s simply the way people are wired.
Porn is skewed heavily towards size. Even “homemade” or “amateur” porn is skewed because normal sized guys don’t tend to post their sex videos. Guys with larger penises have more confidence about posting such things.
Here’s the thing though, average is normal. And average has a range. Some are growers and some are showers, but when all is said and done, MOST women just don’t care that much about it. Some even prefer it. My wife (married 30 years) says it hurts when I try larger toys. She hates that stretching feeling. Average is perfect for her.
Say it with me “porn is not real life”
Mine is 6.5 inches erect and girth of 5.5 inches, would imagine 5 inches or more would be ok though. Apparently average man is 5.5 inches erect
You’re all good. Just get really funny and learn to go down on a woman with genuine enthusiasm. A lot can be forgiven
Find someone who is supportive of your penis size and will talk you up about it
Think you are in the largest percentile of penis rough size. Ya basic and average I’m afraid. So … good news!!!
5” average in America so technically you are slightly below average. It’s serviceable.
There’s tons of components in regards to sex that make it work.
If a woman has smaller sized breasts does that mean she’d be less unattractive in your eyes or any less sensual during sex?
It’s the same for men.
In fact if anything the odds are slightly more in males favour because sex for women is shifted to a more emotional affair than physical.
I’ve talked about this with several women. You’re fine. Many women get off from clit stimulation not a huge cock shoved in them. Above 7″ is legit uncomfortable for many women. I’ve talked with women who were with guys over 7″ and sex was not fun for them.
stop watching porn (that goes for you too, ladies, don’t fall prey to that unrealistic shit and put men under pressure). 4.9 is average. relax.
Willingness to perform, and taking care of your partner go way above being “gifted”. Does it help? Of course it does, but if youre down to trying different things to make it work, a good partner will appreciate you.
4.9″ is just a little below average. Girth is more important.
A 4.9″ dick is perfect for some women and fine for many others. Are you looking to just hook up, or are you looking for a girlfriend? Because if you’re just hooking up, you can still do fine with that size, as long as you make sure to get her off first.
If you’re looking for a girlfriend, sex is just part of the relationship. Most of the time you’re together, you’re talking or doing other things. If your size isn’t ideal for her, odds are it’s good enough and you both can still have a fulfilling sex life together.
Usually it’s the guys who are obsessed with size, and as long as you aren’t on one of the extremes (which you aren’t), it’s not an issue with most women.
There are a lot of misconceptions out there around penis size, so I will just give out some facts around it. There have been some real peer reviewed data sets around penis size, tons of them in fact, which will break down the porn myths.
Race also does not play anywhere near as large a role as porn leads people to believe. For example, the average penis size for black men vs white men is roughly 1/4 in.
So here is where you really stand:
At 4.9in in length, using the global average, you in the bottom 19.32%, meaning in a room of 1000 men, 807 would have a larger penis than you do. Using the Western average, you are in the bottom 14.63%, meaning in a room of 1000 men, 854 would have a larger penis than you do.
So, while you are certainly smaller than most men, it is not as radically small as what you are thinking and are just 1in short of the western average.
calcSD – Penis Size Percentile Calculator
calcSD – Dataset List