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I was reading through the top comments and honestly couldn’t relate to any of them. I nod/say hi to other dads/men all the time and they say hi back.
There are times I’m busy and just want to get in and out so I’ll keep eye contact to a minimal to avoid any distractions, but if someone said hello, I’d never ignore them or give them a weird look.
I haven’t noticed that. I wonder if OP is living somewhere other than where he was raised and he’s seeing a regional difference rather than a generational one.
Edit: Or our generation is just entering the “damn you kids get off my lawn” phase.
Yup this is me. We aren’t friends. I’m not going to talk to you outside of a nod, or some sort of acknowledgement.
I’ve lived in my street in a house I’ve owned by 12 years now. I do not know a single neighbors name outside of those whose mail I’ve gotten by mistake. Which I’ll put on their door step or ring their doorbell and give it to them to deliver.
I don’t see the need to be your pretend temporary buddy.
I’ll be precisely as pleasant i need to be in order to not offend.
Social media, pandemic, and everyone working themselves to the bone without a general feeling of optimism in most Countries/societies.
Social media’s been slowly making us all glued to our phones so public interactions get less & less as the years go on. The pandemic slammed on the accelerator for that and turned a lot of people inward and they never came back. Now, we have “uncertain times” with everything being overpriced, people are overworked, no more “3rd places” for people to mingle & blow off steam, and apps that make dating a hellscape.
It’s not everybody but it’s noticeable wherever you go that most of us are just being anti-social. I’m not saying we have to have full-fledged conversations with each other however the fact that we can’t even say a simple “hey, how’s it going?” to most people without fearing they’ll actually answer and tell us exactly how they’re doing is a sign that we need to start putting down our phones & start treating each other like people again.
They were raised in a fear-based culture. We went from kids playing outside freely to latch-key kids. Moms and dads both started working, so less time with kids to teach social skills. We have totally underestimated the damage done to society by forcing 2 income families where mom and dad both work. I was borderline Boomer/GenX and even my mom went to work in the mid-1970’s. When she was home we played outside until dark. When she started working, we had to come home and stay home until dad got off from work. The media changed from limiting story reach to blasting out every murder, Tylenol scare, Jeff’s Dahmer, Unibomber, nuclear war, every scary thing imaginable. I graduated HS scared of my own shadow.
Everyone is different. I’m in my 30s and know nearly everyone in 5-6 houses around me by name, and enjoy spending time with them. I always give the nod to passers by and not afraid to make small talk.
Most of my neighbors are my age and similar mindset. However the folks across the street from my I’ve never talked to aside from when I initially introduced myself. They will avert their gazes and go about their business whenever I’m outside. Nice enough people it seems, just very insular.
I’m guessing that somehow or other you’ve ended up in a daycare with a bunch of guys…and only guys…who are on the Spectrum. This is pretty typical behavior for autistic people who are non-social.
Only other thing that comes to mind is there is something that distinguishes you as being not of their “caste” and you’re just experiencing prejudice, racial or whatever.
But I’d be careful about generalizing something that’s specific to your situation to society in general. This is odd behavior.
Like I said in that post a lot of it is geographic. I have been/lived around the country and some places are a lot less friendly than others. I think it correlates w/cost of living. The more cash strapped people are the less friendly they are.
A friend asked me the other day where’s my microwave and also noticed I didn’t have an air fryer. I don’t have a coffee maker. I don’t have a blender toaster ninja nothing. I have my stove and fridge- that’s it. If I want toast I heat up the skillet add a little butter and that’s it. If I need tea I boil water and pour over a tea bag in a cup. I think Society has been completely overrun by thoughtlessness. I seen on TikTok the other day people going crazy over a $500 Ninja machine that makes smoothie out of anything liquid you pour into it. So there goes a whole new category of capitalism that’s going to rob people who already can’t afford life. Soon you’ll see a whole aisle at the grocery store of things for the ‘Ninja Smoothie’ and people will buy it at a premium because it’s the trend. It’s the same thing that happened with the air fryer – now there’s twice as many stuff at grocery store because they’ve added in stuff ‘made for the air fryer’ then there the accessories for the air fryer which in itself a whole new category. Look at what happened with the Tumbler fiasco – there’s a whole aisle at Meijers for Tumbler attachments : tiny purses, vinyl stickers different straws etc. The crazy thing about society today is … no one looks at all that crap and say to themselves this is all ridiculous and excessive. There’s a whole aisle at every Goodwill in my town that has abandoned tumblers and air fryers looking for a home. Society has become so much of so much that people have lost sight of the basics of survival and living. It’s like people need stuff like how Sméagol wants that ring to feel alive. The more people become infatuated with these artificial highs. The more we’re dealing with people that have mental health issues and depression and sadness because if they can’t have these things they feel as if they’re lesser humans. When in fact we didn’t need any one of all of this stuff in the first place. I feel like I’m living proof of how simple one can live and be happy and comfortable and I really wish more people in this world could discover that again.
The guy on that post is Gen X, just like I am. What’s funny is, I’m the guy who doesn’t like socializing with strangers. I put on a face that says, “don’t talk to me.” It works.
I also have audio-canceling earbuds on for listening to music. There is a chance people have greeted me and I haven’t responded. When I’ve picked up my nieces from school, I stand apart from others.
He could have been describing me and many other Gen Xers I’ve known.
That post is full of oblivious assholes. They don’t seem to care about those boy’s experiences or wellbeing. They just care that they’re “behaving normally” so the girls will have someone to go to the dance with. I don’t understand how people can describe clearly large scale emotional and social issues, probably due to rampant public demonization of everything male, and then continue to pile on those affected by such malicious treatment for not being what they expect. A bunch of assholes.
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Not something I’ve seen, but I’m not in that kind of situation.
I was reading through the top comments and honestly couldn’t relate to any of them. I nod/say hi to other dads/men all the time and they say hi back.
There are times I’m busy and just want to get in and out so I’ll keep eye contact to a minimal to avoid any distractions, but if someone said hello, I’d never ignore them or give them a weird look.
Hasn’t been my experience at all.
One thing that hasn’t changed about society is people projecting their tiny experience of life onto the rest of the planet.
I haven’t noticed that. I wonder if OP is living somewhere other than where he was raised and he’s seeing a regional difference rather than a generational one.
Edit: Or our generation is just entering the “damn you kids get off my lawn” phase.
Yup this is me. We aren’t friends. I’m not going to talk to you outside of a nod, or some sort of acknowledgement.
I’ve lived in my street in a house I’ve owned by 12 years now. I do not know a single neighbors name outside of those whose mail I’ve gotten by mistake. Which I’ll put on their door step or ring their doorbell and give it to them to deliver.
I don’t see the need to be your pretend temporary buddy.
I’ll be precisely as pleasant i need to be in order to not offend.
Social media, pandemic, and everyone working themselves to the bone without a general feeling of optimism in most Countries/societies.
Social media’s been slowly making us all glued to our phones so public interactions get less & less as the years go on. The pandemic slammed on the accelerator for that and turned a lot of people inward and they never came back. Now, we have “uncertain times” with everything being overpriced, people are overworked, no more “3rd places” for people to mingle & blow off steam, and apps that make dating a hellscape.
It’s not everybody but it’s noticeable wherever you go that most of us are just being anti-social. I’m not saying we have to have full-fledged conversations with each other however the fact that we can’t even say a simple “hey, how’s it going?” to most people without fearing they’ll actually answer and tell us exactly how they’re doing is a sign that we need to start putting down our phones & start treating each other like people again.
They were raised in a fear-based culture. We went from kids playing outside freely to latch-key kids. Moms and dads both started working, so less time with kids to teach social skills. We have totally underestimated the damage done to society by forcing 2 income families where mom and dad both work. I was borderline Boomer/GenX and even my mom went to work in the mid-1970’s. When she was home we played outside until dark. When she started working, we had to come home and stay home until dad got off from work. The media changed from limiting story reach to blasting out every murder, Tylenol scare, Jeff’s Dahmer, Unibomber, nuclear war, every scary thing imaginable. I graduated HS scared of my own shadow.
Everyone is different. I’m in my 30s and know nearly everyone in 5-6 houses around me by name, and enjoy spending time with them. I always give the nod to passers by and not afraid to make small talk.
Most of my neighbors are my age and similar mindset. However the folks across the street from my I’ve never talked to aside from when I initially introduced myself. They will avert their gazes and go about their business whenever I’m outside. Nice enough people it seems, just very insular.
I’m guessing that somehow or other you’ve ended up in a daycare with a bunch of guys…and only guys…who are on the Spectrum. This is pretty typical behavior for autistic people who are non-social.
Only other thing that comes to mind is there is something that distinguishes you as being not of their “caste” and you’re just experiencing prejudice, racial or whatever.
But I’d be careful about generalizing something that’s specific to your situation to society in general. This is odd behavior.
Like I said in that post a lot of it is geographic. I have been/lived around the country and some places are a lot less friendly than others. I think it correlates w/cost of living. The more cash strapped people are the less friendly they are.
Head down, hoodie up, scrolling on phone generation.
I saw that in r/GenX, said I thought it was crap and I’m happy to repeat myself here
we, back in the day, were nowhere near as chummy as the author of the original post portrays
it is, I think, the result of Gen X getting older and seeing everything with rose colored glasses because they forgot the bad stuff
A friend asked me the other day where’s my microwave and also noticed I didn’t have an air fryer. I don’t have a coffee maker. I don’t have a blender toaster ninja nothing. I have my stove and fridge- that’s it. If I want toast I heat up the skillet add a little butter and that’s it. If I need tea I boil water and pour over a tea bag in a cup. I think Society has been completely overrun by thoughtlessness. I seen on TikTok the other day people going crazy over a $500 Ninja machine that makes smoothie out of anything liquid you pour into it. So there goes a whole new category of capitalism that’s going to rob people who already can’t afford life. Soon you’ll see a whole aisle at the grocery store of things for the ‘Ninja Smoothie’ and people will buy it at a premium because it’s the trend. It’s the same thing that happened with the air fryer – now there’s twice as many stuff at grocery store because they’ve added in stuff ‘made for the air fryer’ then there the accessories for the air fryer which in itself a whole new category. Look at what happened with the Tumbler fiasco – there’s a whole aisle at Meijers for Tumbler attachments : tiny purses, vinyl stickers different straws etc. The crazy thing about society today is … no one looks at all that crap and say to themselves this is all ridiculous and excessive. There’s a whole aisle at every Goodwill in my town that has abandoned tumblers and air fryers looking for a home. Society has become so much of so much that people have lost sight of the basics of survival and living. It’s like people need stuff like how Sméagol wants that ring to feel alive. The more people become infatuated with these artificial highs. The more we’re dealing with people that have mental health issues and depression and sadness because if they can’t have these things they feel as if they’re lesser humans. When in fact we didn’t need any one of all of this stuff in the first place. I feel like I’m living proof of how simple one can live and be happy and comfortable and I really wish more people in this world could discover that again.
The guy on that post is Gen X, just like I am. What’s funny is, I’m the guy who doesn’t like socializing with strangers. I put on a face that says, “don’t talk to me.” It works.
I also have audio-canceling earbuds on for listening to music. There is a chance people have greeted me and I haven’t responded. When I’ve picked up my nieces from school, I stand apart from others.
He could have been describing me and many other Gen Xers I’ve known.
What happened to society? Smart phones made us all dumb af.
That post is full of oblivious assholes. They don’t seem to care about those boy’s experiences or wellbeing. They just care that they’re “behaving normally” so the girls will have someone to go to the dance with. I don’t understand how people can describe clearly large scale emotional and social issues, probably due to rampant public demonization of everything male, and then continue to pile on those affected by such malicious treatment for not being what they expect. A bunch of assholes.