Baby is 8mo and since he started wanting to grab at stuff, I started getting erked by how MIL would speak to him.
Im all for taking his hands off whatever he’s grabbing at to keep him safe / keep the chaos down. But she would pretend spank him and say ‘no’ in a tone I really wasnt ok with.
This was addressed but it keeps happening, to the point Ive realized I am going low contact without even planning for it – and when we’re together, I try to keep the time she’s holding him to a minimum. Imo, if shes not holding him, she cant act innapropriately towards him.
Today, SO and I were having an unrelated conversarion and he told me how his mom would do what can only be described at psychological terror everytime he did something wrong as a child.
All my alarms went off.
If previously I wasnt sure why her tone or actions bothered me so much, now I know my mom intuition was working perfectly.
Worth mentioning MIL is the ‘can do no harm’ type until you start getting to know her well, and then you notice all these little things that just go to show what a fake she can be.
We have a good relationship, but this is definetely a boundary we will be enforcing
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My grandma was like this when she was in my house I would carry a squirt bottle and spray her like a bad cat ever time she did this to my daughter. She finally got the hint when I would stand at the ready when ever she was around my daughter lol she yelled stop pointing that thing at me🤣