I’m here for a debate, do the people of reddit think that being attracted to fictional characters count as cheating?
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and we’ve both got completely different opinions on the matter and wanted to know how other people feel about the issue aswell.
I won’t lie, I read books and watch movies and think some characters are attractive. My girlfriend on the other hand thinks it’s cheating because I’m finding other people attractive.
I DO NOT FIND REAL LIFE PEOPLE ATTRACTIVE!
I have eyes only for her and wouldn’t dream of giving it up in any lifetime.
Is finding fictional characters attractive considered cheating in your relationship?
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finding someone attractive is not cheating for me
yes cheating is different for everyone but finding someone cute, attractive or good looking is not for me
if yous start fapping to that character or amth like this then it may be jn that direction
no and this is honestly a stupid question. anyone who thinks being attracted to fictional characters or even real life people is “cheating” needs some serious therapy. we are all human and will obviously be attracted to other humans. cheating is intentional emotional and/or physical involvement with someone other than your committed partner, (you cannot be emotionally and physically involved with a FICTIONAL character). viewing other human beings with your eyes and finding them attractive is not cheating. end of discussion.
No.
And finding real life people attractive isn’t cheating either.
Finding other people attractive is absolutely not cheating, whether they’re real or fictional.
Acting on an attraction is cheating, generally, but just having eyes and seeing that a person is attractive to you? Not cheating.
No, but I wouldn’t sit there and gush about celebrity crushes. I wouldn’t even mention them it’s juvenile.
So she things you are cheating because you think about anime or smurfette when you jerk off?
I don’t consider being attracted to someone – real or fictional – cheating. To me, cheating is about actions and decisions. Choosing to act in any way outside of the bounds of the relationship on said attraction would to me be cheating.
Finding someone attractive is never cheating, even real-life people. I fear this attitude in the long term can damage you both, as it can lead to essentially shaming yourself for having certain thoughts. You will both meet attractive people for the rest of your life. That’s just how life is. Whether that is cheating depends on how you react to it.
Do you guys ever watch movies together? A lot of actors are attractive. How do you react when you see an attractive actor?
oh FFS she needs a therapist.
Big question for you. What brought this up? Were you watching a movie and 1) did you start obsessively saying how hot the actress was and how you’d like to bend her over the kitchen table and … or 2) was it just the mere fact that you were watching a movie with a good looking actress in it? If it was 1, then you’re probably an asshat and not ready for a relationship. If it was 2, then your girlfriend needs some therapy.
Oh and cut the crap about not finding IRL people attractive. There are other good looking people in this world who are attractive. Its what you do and say about that fact that matters, not whether you think they exist.
Wtf
No.
I also don’t think finding people attractive IRL is cheating either.
Just because I find someone attractive, 1) doesn’t mean I want to sleep with them; 2) it doesn’t mean I find them more attractive or more lovable than my partner; and 3) it sure as hell doesn’t mean I want to cheat on my partner, whether physically or emotionally.
There are plenty of attractive people in the world. It’s weird for anyone to feel they should be viewed as the only attractive person in the whole world… that’s just nonsense.
Think the consensus is that finding someone attractive is not cheating, but as a thought experiment without thinking too much how would you feel if you were watching a fictional show and your partner turned to you and said they were attracted to a character?
Also it’s a bit of a vague statement, are you saying the fictional characters in books / movies look nothing like real life people?
But my feeling is that it’s not cheating, but consider how she’s feeling when you say things like that. She might be insecure and wanting to know you only have eyes for her. Just little thoughts to think about there 😎👉
Are we talking cartoon/anime? Or you sitting saying you fancy Belle from beauty and the beast but think Emma Watsons ugly?
Either way, just keep your mouth shut and say you’d love your gf even if she was a worm
What they said ☝️👇
Is it attraction to the character/marketed packaging? Or really attraction to the ideal traits they represent? Ie. Finding intelligence or loyalty attractive. That’s normal. Thinking it’s cheating is ridiculous. Id say that thinking points to an insecurity based on the traits the character represents.
No, but don’t gush about it in front of her. Just keep it to yourself.
I don’t think so. I am having the affair of the century with a Korean K-Pop Idol. It’s ok, because my husband has been dead for over 10 years. Fantasy keeps our brains alive.
If you are sitting there CONSTANTLY talking about disgusting things you would like to do to said characters- you’re just gross, but it’s still not cheating.
Cheating requires the interaction and intent to do something with another person.
But people have eyes and find other people attractive, fictional or no. That’s just normal. We just don’t act on it, that’s what makes us in a relationship.
If you can’t get off unless you think about this character or have her dress up has the character- she may have a leg to stand on- but it’s shaky.
She wants to get pissed at you for talking h0rny with an AI bot or a video chat girl? Go off sis- those are words and scenarios you could/should be doing with her. As long as you aren’t actively looking for someone else and emotionally or physically putting in effort that is meant for your SO- you’re not cheating.
If she thinks that than everyone in the world will be cheating in her eyes- and either she needs to talk to someone because there’s some serious damaged from her past, or maybe she is suppressing some urge herself and she is projecting that onto you.
No, even attraction to real people isn’t cheating. Attraction isn’t a conscious choice. Cheating is an active set of choices you make to act on attraction.
No it’s not cheating but this is not the first time I’ve read something like this. OP your girlfriend sounds insecure and yes it’s fine to like real people too, just don’t go ranting about how attractive they are.
You’re lying. You find real life people attractive, too, not just fictional ones. Everyone does. You just don’t act on it. It’s normal. As my dad used to say, “I’m married, not dead.” You can be faithful and find others attractive. Your gf is an insecure and young, many young people are. (And plenty never grow out of it)
Finding anyone attractive is not cheating, fictional or not.
BUT, a caveat to this being it can make a partner uncomfortable and make it feel like cheating if it’s excessive, obsessive, you’re saying sexual things about them or just being generally creepy about it (like covering your bedroom walls in posters of them or something, lol).
I’m curious how this even came up? I feel like there’s more to this story that would be important for context.
No. You can’t have a relationship with a fictional character.
No.
Finding fictional or real people attractive isn’t cheating.
Your girlfriend’s young and has some growing up to do.
Can she really honestly say she’s never found anyone else other than you attractive? Doubtful
There’s literally nothing wrong with being attracted to real or fictional people as long as you’re not engaging with the real people or being weirdly obsessive over the fictional ones. As a general rule of thumb though, maybe you shouldn’t go out of your way to talk about the people you find fuckable with your girlfriend. There’s just not much good sense in bringing it up, even if you’re not doing anything inherently wrong.
No, people don’t go around cheating all the time because they find others attractive.
It’s a drawing or words on a page 😂