Is being love bombed by an ex different? I don’t know if I [28F] should pursue getting back with him [31M]

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TLDR: Unsure if my ex is love bombing me, or if it’s different because he’s an ex. Unsure if I feel comfortable moving forward

I don’t know if this will get flagged for being about an ex, but it’s more so trying to figure out if I should go back with him

I read an article recently that being love bombed by an ex should be viewed differently than being love bombed by someone you’re just starting a relationship with. Need opinions

My long distance ex and I went no contact after a really painful breakup 6 months ago. I honestly thought I would never hear from him again and started to live with that mindset.

Out of the blue I get a text from him. The first night he started saying things like he’s been in love with me still this whole time, the absence of me has made him miserable, wanted to visit me just 2 days after talking again (our anniversary ironically) Said I love you the first night of speaking to each other again. Sent me flowers on our anniversary.

I said I needed some time, but he didnt understand because he said “I’m the same person I was back then, You’re the same person you were back then, what is there to figure out?” He believed being together again would solve every problem and we could just go back to being together. He wanted to go on a trip together, his expectation was that we needed to fully commit to each other before seeing each other. I said I need to feel things out first. He said he would only see me if I was 100% of our future.

I fell into the love bombing, he caught me in a really vulnerable spot. It became really overwhelming.

But i don’t know if this is the normal time line of getting back with an ex. Should this be approached differently?

Comments

  1. PlasticDuck3268 Avatar

    He wants what he wants and he wants it now! Doesn’t sound like love, sounds more like an ultimatum?

  2. Historyofdelusion Avatar

    We are missing the context of the breakup. Pretty important.