I 18F am with my bf 18M, we went on a break for space and to decide to break up as we have been having a lot of issues. He went behind my back telling other girls he was going to break up with me and I honestly thought it was the end. However, while in the break I’m worried and overthinking I might’ve accidentally flirted with someone, I tend to be quite a jokey person and overly nice cause I’m a people pleaser. But I feel really scared as if I might’ve but I don’t remember it at all but it’s the what if I did that’s killing me.
My boy friend tends to get very jelous over tiny things like me having guy friends and talking to them about my problems, I think his reactions to other stuff like that make me feel even worse like I’d done something.
TL/DR:
I’m scared I might’ve accidentally flirted while on a break with my bf, not anything serious just me making jokes or being overly friendly which I am to everyone anyway, and I’m overthinking because I don’t remember doing it at all but it’s the what if?
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Unless you have agreed otherwise, you’re single and within your rights to do what you want, and so is he. Breaks are pointless at best, harmful at worst. This isn’t going to help your relationship in any way; it will just foster resentment and extra baggage that you’ll have to deal with if/when you get back together. This relationship should be over.
Just stay broken up. Read the last paragraph that you wrote over and over to yourself. That isn’t a healthy way to treat someone. Leave him behind and move on. Worrying about how he would react to your behaviour completely separate from him while broken up isn’t healthy. Find someone who encourages you and lifts you up. Not someone who you have to walk on eggshells around.
Shouldn’t this be time to re-evaluate your relationship status? If you are flirting as soon as you go on a break, then you really shouldn’t be in that broken relationship where you cannot wait to be with someone else.
If a married couple of 20 years are having serious problems, a break might be helpful. Two teenagers? Nah.
A break is when you can work on yourself and figure out what is needed for the relationship to thrive. If your first concern is flirting with another man, just break up.
Dude you’re allowed to do whatever you want in a break. Your boyfriend is toxic though. Break up
TBH, sounds like u got a case of the ‘overthinkies’. You’re on a break, right? His job to trust u, not sell you out. If u being ur friendly, jokey self gets taken as flirting, that’s on them, not u. Break or no, u deserve better than a dude who sees you as property, instead of a person – just saying. Lighten up, breathe, and stop punishing urself girl💁♀️👏