I (24F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (25M) for 3+ years. We live together and i honestly think we could get married. He is actually perfect, really sweet, caring and a green flag. However, i saw something on his phone that made me sick to my stomach.
Idk if he’s cheating but he definitely disrespected me. We went on a trip today with 3 of our other friends. I came home on was working on our shared computer while he was in the shower. His WhatsApp web was open which is quite normal as he does share all his passwords with me anyway. I noticed a name I’ve never seen before so i clicked on it.
There was no prior conversation except this one. It was a girl. He had messaged her saying “hey, saw your insta story, i was at ___ today too”
Here’s how the conversation went:
Her: wait what? No way 😂
Him: haha I’m serious
Her: so close yet so far
Him: alwayss
Her: guess the universe never wants us to meet lol
Him: universe is giving us some crazy signs though like what do these signs even mean?
Her: guess we need to figure that out! Btw who were you with today?
Him: a few friends and girlfriend too
Her: oh girlfriend? haha I’m glad we didn’t run into each other then
Him: 😂😂
Her: although don’t think we’d acknowledge each other in that situation
Him: i would acknowledge an old high school friend
Him: I’d just be like “hey i know her” and come talk to you
Him: but yeah she would stalk you then and it would become wildly chaotic
Him: and you are kinda very good looking too so 😂
Her: oh haha she would not stalk me based on this random unplanned run in
Him: but she would see you and see how good you look so that is a major possibility haha
Obviously the “she” in their conversation is me. After this they just talked about normal stuff, catching up about what they have been up to etc. I’m absolutely shattered and so embarrassed. Idk what to do?
TL;DR my boyfriend told another girl I would stalk her if I saw her cuz she is “too good looking” and idk if this counts cheating already.
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its not looking good thats for sure
Trust isn’t just about faithfulness, it’s about respect. Have a frank conversation with him about this, you deserve clarity.
Not cheating, but very disrespectful. Set clear boundaries… if he crosses them again, walk away
“ He’s perfect ….. followed by …..
We could get married .. he’s cheating and might cheat soon “
Ridiculous
i would not feel one bit good about this convo, especially with the disrespect of him basically mocking you to a woman who seems to be trying to shut him down after he has mentioned that he has a gf.
cheating? no, not based on this interaction. but i wouldn’t stay with him for the sheer disrespect he shows to make another woman laugh. also, he was trying to flirt with her which would give me the ultimate ick. depends if there has been other red flags.
The questions you’re asking are unknown so I won’t bother speculate, it’s apparent that this isn’t an appropriate conversation and even if there’s just some mutual attraction that never gets acted out…it’s obviously flirtatious & not how you’d want your partner to act. Address it and speak your mind…though it seems they haven’t met up and may never will, he is clearly a fan and is trying to test the waters.