First he said he wanted to start working in August that’s his goal. Then when he finally received contract starting in August, his mom said it’s too soon and that another part of his family will be visiting. (He met them already and he said he can always make some times to visit.) though he then changed his goal accordingly to his mom words. Tbh I admire his affection to his family and mom but I’ve been told by my friends a lot that he’s spoiled. I’m not sure what to think or do cos I’m scared for the future. Is this normal? Would I be okay? Since I grew up super drastically differently from him. So I do not understand the dependency, especially at this age. ~24-25 (I’ve been somewhat self reliant since 14 somewhat financially 19 and fully financially and independent choices 22. I’m now 25. And my bf is 24-25 soon. I hope I’m just not understanding him now and I will after. We abruptly ended the call at 7:20 cos he said he has promised his mom to eat breakfast at 7:15. Not sure if it’s a lie but ye i didn’t ask much.
Is he’s a mama’s boy?
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> his mom said it’s too soon and that another part of his family will be visiting
That’s all that needs so be said this is a mommas boy and who has not leapt out of the nest period. He needs to do something for himself.
First he said he wanted to start working in August that’s his goal. Then when he finally received contract starting in August, his mom said it’s too soon and that another part of his family will be visiting.
(He met them already and he said he can always make some times to visit.) though he then changed his goal accordingly to his mom words. Tbh I admire his affection to his family and mom but I’ve been told by my friends a lot that he’s spoiled.
I’m not sure what to think or do cos I’m scared for the future. Is this normal? Would I be okay? Since I grew up super drastically differently from him. So I do not understand the dependency, especially at this age. ~24-25
(I’ve been somewhat self reliant since 14 somewhat financially 19 and fully financially and independent choices 22. I’m now 25. And my bf is 24-25 soon.
I hope I’m just not understanding him now and I will after. We abruptly ended the call at 7:20 cos he said he has promised his mom to eat breakfast at 7:15. Not sure if it’s a lie but ye i didn’t ask much.
Every family dynamic is different, so its possible that he’s used to taking his mother’s advice to heart. Honestly, I wouldn’t expect that behavior to change until the two of you start to get more serious (like engaged, etc), then its definitely going to need to be an issue to address. Last thing you want is his mom high-jacking your wedding and making it into her own thing or some extreme scenario like that.