Like if your girlfriend or boyfriend has multiple guy or girl “friends” that they go out with alone or hang out in their home alone? I know someone with a boyfriend who hangs out with guys to smoke or drink alone, goes out to eat or shop with them in revealing clothing and posts pictures with her guy friends more than with her actual boyfriend.
I always found it so strange. What do you guys think of this? Would you feel uncomfortable with this or be okay with it? I have seen men do this too, have multiple girl friends and hang with them more than their girlfriends, do you think this is potential cheating? 20sF or M
TLDR dating in your 20sF or 20sM
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It is strange when your SO doesn’t want to mix you with their friends especially of the opposite sex. From my experience people like that secretly have relations with those “friends”
I always set a boundary up front of what I’m looking for. Opposite sex friendships are fine, but no 1on1 time anywhere. Also, if they have a lot of opposite sex friends, I usually won’t date them for a relationship.
I think it depends on the kind of relationship your in, if we’re not exclusive I see nothing wrong with it, but if its supposed to be a committed relationship its not appropriate. My spouse told me about his female friends when we first started dating, and I told him I didn’t have a problem with it as long as 1) these weren’t previous females he’d been intimate with 2) he wasn’t trying to make new female friends.
It’s really about mutual respect, is he okay with you hanging out with guy friends?
Doesn’t bother me or my boyfriend. We trust one another.
I think it depends. I don’t see anything wrong with friends of the opposite sex or even hanging out alone. To me it’s a problem if they are hiding it from their partner, being proactive or actively excluding you.