I will not post a picture of my face here or anywhere else because I do not have the confidence to endure the comments I will get, but I want to know from a general point: how much control do you have over how your face looks, and can you go from being a truly ugly guy to being attractive, even if you’ve been cursed with terrible facial bone structure/eye placement?
I’m a 19M and am struggling with where to start to improve my face. What general tips have you all tried that had the biggest effect on your appearance?
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Yes if you take care of yourself. Working out, skin care, good diet all play into attractiveness.
Tbh having an healthy lifestyle (sport, healthy food, good sleep) will 100% improve your face / body like if you’re a 4/10 you can become a 6/10 but there is a limit to this that you can’t get over
You have so much control. First hair, certain hair styles frame the face, elongate the face, stretch the face. So find what face shape hairstyle combo you would like the most. And not specifically but the like “genre” so layered or bangs or buzzed and there are multiple ways to style a hair in those “genres”. I think most people look better with long hair but most are scared to grow it. Also hair color, highlights for example
Then is skin, obviously if you have acne, razor bumps these are all treatable.
You can’t spot reduce fat meaning only lose fat in 1 place or choose where the fat comes from. When you are born your body pre-decides where it will store fat first and when it looses weight where to remove fat first. And the face is usually last. So if you loose fat in general you will slim down your face
i’ve read and heard that nose breathing and chewing develops jaw.
apart from that, i think it’s best to focus on more the foundation first- your body fitness, competence, good sleep and diet. it’s really difficult to see someone as “ugly” when they have these things on point.
It’s possible and all you need during your trip is patience
You can:
Go to gym
Eat healthy food
And Self-care
And you should take small steps to not feel overwhelmed and lose motivation
Lol nooo but you can look healthier
There are definitely choices that can be made that can improve attractiveness. Hair, facial hair, hygiene, fitness, overall health, taking care of your teeth, clothing, etc.
I try not to be judgmental, but sometimes I look at someone and can actively see the choices that are holding them back from being the best looking version of themselves. Post Malone was making some pretty horrid choices in his appearance when he first came out with “White Iverson,” and at the time I think most would find him objectively ugly. Now he’s done some things differently and suddenly he’s not so bad – he’s started to find styles that work for him.
Even just mannerisms, tone of voice, and confidence can all add. Take Benny Blanco as another example, who is dating Selena Gomez. The whole internet has been dunking on him for being a funny looking dude. Now he recently did a podcast interview, and most of the women on the internet are now in love with him. He didn’t even change anything about his appearance, but his energy was attractive.
Ethan Slater was also getting dunked on for being too ugly to date Ariana Grande. Then fans saw some clips of him being really sweet and charming and suddenly the ladies were like “Ari, I owe you an apology – I get it now.”
Yes and staying attractive is work aswell. Its not something you get and then have it forever.
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Hey! A lot of people see big improvements by focusing on their health first. You can remove facial bloating by consistently going to the gym, for example + build muscle. For hair I’d recommend microneedling to increase growth (thicker hair is generally perceived as more attractive). Look up success stories to motivate you. Chew gum for jawline. Experiment and find out what kind of styling fits you the most, and ensure you have a healthy diet. If you’re considering plastic surgery, do careful research prior. It can be another means to increase your overall attractiveness. Most importantly, be confident and develop self-love. You can’t hate yourself into looking good, embrace the journey with patience and make small refinements every single day.
Wishing you good luck, you got this:)
Yep. Attitude and kindness (genuine kindness) will make you so much more attractive.
Change your thinking first I don’t care if you look like Quasimodo be positive, then yes spend a small bit o money if available go to a hair stylist let them show you a good cut to accentuate your face? Clothing style eeh? Just dress casual jeans and t shirt
Now back story I was born with a cleft lip , I will wait if you want to look it up! Now always thought I was horrible looking but guess what a few changes and a bit of confidence and I’m good now
The best way to improve your facial attractiveness is getting your facial expressions down – your sly, confident smile. Your strong, positive eye contact. Looking like you’re in control of your emotions and in control of the situation….
Your facial expression reveals how secure/insecure you are. Women are super adept to picking up these subtle tells. So make sure you’re communicating your masculine strength nonverbally.
You may not be able to do a whole lot about your face, but simply dressing well and working out to get a good body can dramatically raise anybody’s attractive points. The thing that makes most people look unattractive is them not taking care of themselves.
Maybe will sound funny to some of you, but whenever I feel happy and accomplished every girl looks at me its crazy, just remind lets win one by one goal or obstacle wt a time it all adds up and makes you feel good and that energy transfers to people around you
Yes. Ive seen some pretty ridiculous transformations. It’s work, but yes.
My first suggestion would be to start with self-care. Get a good haircut that suits your face shape, follow a consistent skincare routine, and make sure you’re clean and well-groomed. Then, focus on eating nutritious, whole foods, and quit alcohol and drugs altogether if that applies to you. I’d recommend getting active—hit the gym or hire a personal trainer to help you get into the best shape of your life. Pick up a hobby that involves movement and social interaction, like jogging or cycling. Joining a group activity, such as a running club or cycling group, can be both motivating and fun. Mountain biking is popular, but that depends on where you live.
Aim to drink 2 to 3 litres of water a day (depending on your body weight) and take your vitamins regularly. Make sleep a priority—getting eight hours a night can make a huge difference in how you feel and look.
Next, take care of your health in a broader sense. Schedule regular checkups, go to the dentist, and stay on top of your health needs. If your budget allows, treat yourself to things that make you feel good—like a manicure, massage, or spa treatment. These may not drastically change your appearance, but they can make you feel radiant and boost your confidence.
Wear clothes that flatter your body type. If you’re unsure what works best for you, ask a trusted friend or a stylist in a retail store for suggestions.
Most importantly, give yourself space to grow. Read, explore new ideas, and join groups like Toastmasters to improve your public speaking skills and become a confident communicator. Remember, your personality is a huge part of what makes you attractive.
Stop focusing on what others think is attractive. Work on being the best version of yourself, and fall madly in love with who you are becoming.
I know most people are going to tell you to focus on jawline exercises, skincare, or hitting the gym to improve your appearance. And while those things can definitely help, I’m going to flip the script a little because there’s a much bigger piece that people miss.
A “pretty” person with low self-esteem or a negative view of themselves can actually come across as unattractive. Because how you see yourself is what you project to the world. Confidence, comfort in your own skin, and a sense of self-worth change the way others perceive you, even more than your bone structure ever could.
If you look around Hollywood, beyond the top 1% of genetically gifted actors, you’ll notice that most of the people on screen are average in terms of facial structure. Yet they’re seen as attractive because of how they carry themselves, how they own the space they take up, and how they believe in their own presence. You’ll also find plenty of examples of “unattractive” celebrities who are in relationships, not because they have perfect faces, but because they exude confidence and charisma.
“Beauty starts on the inside” sounds like a tired cliché, but it’s not just some feel-good statement, it’s reality. When you truly believe you are worthy and attractive, it shifts the way you move, talk, and connect with people. That’s what others pick up on. And when you combine that inner confidence with making improvements on the outside (fitness, grooming, style), the results are amplified.
So yeah, is it possible to go from feeling ugly to being seen as attractive? Absolutely. But it starts with how you see yourself , and that’s a game-changer most people overlook.