I’ve just been wondering, after lurking on the sub for some time, I’ve noticed that JNMILs often get worse over time, especially after marriage and kids.
It’s usually also a DH problem, failing to set firm boundaries and stand up for themselves and their partner.
And I notice that many women end up wishing they had left the relationship before marriage.
So naturally, I wonder, does it ever get better with time?
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Sometimes, but not often. Boundaries and communication can help, but toxic dynamics often persist. Prioritize self-care, set clear limits, and consider counseling. If the situation remains unhealthy, reevaluate the relationship’s impact on your well-being.
Nope. If he’s spineless before marriage, a ring won’t grow him a backbone. It usually gets worse when MIL thinks she “owns” the family now.