im a girl and everyone else i know has lost their virginity but i havnt. i’ve come close but i havnt felt ready to go all the way yet is this unusual?
is it bad to admit i’m a virgin at 17
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im a girl and everyone else i know has lost their virginity but i havnt. i’ve come close but i havnt felt ready to go all the way yet is this unusual?
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Not at all, you’re still young. Plenty of people I know we’re virgins well into their 20’s. Don’t rush it or stress, it’ll happen when the times right
You’re fine , I wouldn’t rush it and I’d wait to do it with someone who really cares and asks you if it’s ok to proceed to show it too. Don’t rush it you’re young , I didn’t lose mine till 19 and even then I regret for not taking my time with her.
No
It’s definitely not unusual, and I promise at least some people you know are lying because they feel pressured to. It’s absolutely fine to still be a virgin for as long as you want to be and don’t let anyone tell you differently. Only do it when it feels like the right time, your age doesn’t need to factor in to it at all.
In my opinion, I wish I stayed a virgin for as long as I could. I was 16, wrong place, wrong time, wrong person. Trust me when I say this, one day you will meet the right person and you’ll want to give that part of yourself to them. I’m 22 with the love of my life now, and I wish I hadve kept that for him, I despise knowing other people have touched my body, even consensually. It sounds like such a cliche, but don’t let your friend group influence your sex life. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. I wish I hadve cared more when I was younger. You will know when it’s the right time, and don’t rush into anything with anyone. Don’t throw it away
Not unusual
Don’t listen to anyone
Proud yourself 👏 you have treasure.
Try to keep safe
i’m in college and half the people i know are virgins. it’s entirely normal. just take everything at your own pace, your time will come if you want it to.
Lots of people don’t lose their virginity until later. It will happen when it happens don’t put a time stamp on it.
Not at all!! Please don’t feel bad and rush! Society is so weird pls don’t let it dictate your actions, especially for something that is so so personal
There’s nothing wrong with waiting until it feels right for you. Everyone moves at their own pace, and the right person will respect that. You’re not missing out, you’re just making sure it’s meaningful.
No not really
I was a virgin into my late 20s. I was too busy trying to find my place in the world to give guys a second look. I never thought of sex much, though I knew my best friend wasn’t a virgin towards the end of high school. She never pressured me, or told me i was being frigid. I just wasn’t ready.
My first time was forced on me, I hated it, it was painful and I ended up faking everything- even my feelings for the person.
Losing your virginity might seem life changing but it wont define your life. It won’t be perfect, and might not be fun. It’s a learning experience. Take the time to think about what you are comfortable with, set boundaries.
Maybe find some sex toys (order them online if you can) to learn about your body and where you prefer to be touched. Perhaps you might even find where and how you can orgasm.
If you have decided you are ready, practice with dildos (start narrow/small and work up gradually to a realistic size. Always cover anything you insert in a condom as us gals can be prone to UTIs) – this can help with pain, discomfort, and vaginismus which is a very common condition women have that can make even regular sex excruciating.
I wish I had known all this in my 20s and not my 30s.
What I’m saying is don’t rush. Find what you feel comfortable with doing, what makes you feel good, and see if you feel ready.
Not at all, your body your choices. Just do not give entity to the social pressure. When you feel ready go for it.
I would say quite the opposite: having the temple to use your body as you wish is a virtue.
You definitely want your first time to be with someone who cares about you and your feelings.
Do not be pressured. Take your time to choose someone good.
First time is often is a terrible experience and you want to do it with someone who is sensitive and considerate.
It’s individual and personal to remain virgin. Just say I didn’t feel connected to someone yet. Btw what comes to your mind when you think about weekends?
Even if it was (and I don’t think it is) it shouldn’t matter. If you’re not ready, you’re not ready. I lost mine at 17 and knew a few that didn’t lose it til college/post college.
Personally, I think a lot of women’s (and men’s) first-time sucks because it hurts and is a bit awkward; but with the right guy (calm, sympathetic, sweet) it’ll be a good experience. Wait for that guy….
Not at all!!! Don’t rush into it! Meet someone you feel completely comfortable and safe and confident and happy with.
No and im gonna be completely honest sex aint even that good wait till marrage trust me you will regret it if you fuck somebody at a younger age like i have 👎
Don’t fall into the trend and be proud of it. You will lose when you have to.
Average age someone loses it is 19
17? 26M virgin here, join the club
When I was about to turn 17, all the girls in my friend group loved to talk about how they were having sex with whoever — I felt like a big loser because I’d been making my boyfriend wait while all my friends were making their boyfriends happy.
So a month before I turned 17 I told my boyfriend yes — and for me in particular (I know it isn’t that way for everyone) it was excruciating. I asked my friend group later on if this had happened to any of them, because it had been a really unpleasant surprise.
That’s when I discovered that my friends were all lying and it turned out that none of them had punched the V card except for me — Miss Goody Two Shoes herself. Those rumors afterwards were not fun.
OP, you have at least one or two friends who will say they have sexual experience when they do not. Don’t let yourself be peer pressured into something that you’re not in the mood to do for any reason.
I will almost never tell this to a women I plan to date but my honest opinion is I have always respected women more who are virgins. I grew up being told that premarital sex is the only sin you can perform against yourself and that when two people have sex their souls combine into one, when they separate it actually fractures each persons soul and that little piece of soul stays with that person forever so each will always love each other. When you fracture the soul too many times the eventual bond is much weaker because their soul isn’t whole to bond with their final soulmate.
I stopped following religion more or less a long time ago but that always stuck with me. I see women who has had sex as having a shattered soul, not capable of a pure bond with someone, I have stopped talking to women multiple times who had high body counts.
So that being said I’m one of the few people who sees a women that waited as a great thing and deep down is what I would want for a wife, it’s not a requirement, just a want. I talk to girls in their 20s that waited, it’s not uncommon to find. I only ever tell virgins that, I never assume and never normally bring it up to upset a girl who didn’t wait.
… I am 37, I’m a virgin. So what? What’s the issue?
Ya it is, you should have sex as soon as you were born, what are you waiting for?
No, no and no. Your virginity belongs to you. Don’t give it to some guy just so I can be on of the crowd. Don’t ever give in unless you find someone who respects you and loves you. Guys at this age are out to score and you will only be a number on a game card. Wait til you and the guys are in their 20a and are interested in a relationship. You have your entire life ahead of you, respect yourself and they will respect you..
Not at all. I didn’t lose my virginity until age 20, even though all of my friends had lost theirs. It’s truly not a race, it’s about being with someone you feel safe and comfortable with, and who you want to take that step with.
No. You’re pretty young! Most folks don’t lose it until they’re a young adult.
hey! i used to be very insecure about this. i am now 23 and didn’t lose mine until i was 21 about to be 22 as a senior in college. don’t ever let anyone make you feel like you have to. i personally cant do hookups i get too emotionally attached. i had so many friends in college try to get me to do hookups and make bets on me. i finally chose to lose it to someone i thought was good and i regret it. 6 months later i met the loml and wished i would’ve waited for him. do it when you are ready, it is your timeline and no one else’s. i have cousins and friends who didn’t lose it until 25-28. don’t let anyone pressure you!! if you’re not ready then don’t.
Liars are in the line for you
you’re fine
There is no magical time. Wait for the right person. I didn’t understand all of the implications that it brought with it. My mom conditioned me that the ONLY thing that would happen is that you get pregnant or an STD. She was so wrong. There is so much emotion tied up in it, and sex cultivates a permanent bond with the person.
No luv! There’s nothing wrong with that. Frankly I didn’t have consensual sex till I was 24. When you are ready is when you are ready. Your body is YOURS and you can do what you damned well please with it WHEN you want to!
Im still a virgin at 22 (male if that matters) and I honestly dont see it changing anytime soon 😂 your still young. Dont stress about it, youll find someone who you feel ready (and comfortable) to go all the way with. Until then who cares, live life, be happy. Your 17 ffs dont worry about what everyone else is doing, worry about school and college! (Or university)
It’s not a flex to lose your virginity at 17 imo keep it until it feels right or save yourself for marriage
You don’t have to admit or deny your chastity to anyone! Don’t rush into sexual experiences, take your time as you’re too young. Focus on studies and become financially independent. It’s your choice anyways if you want to lose your v-card or not. Once you’re independent, you will realise it’s not even worth it fr!
Not at all! Honestly, it’s better to wait until you’re older and you find someone who you trust. I’m 20 and I’ve had a lot of intercourse that I am not proud of looking back. Just go at ur own pace!
Your peers just put out too easy. It’s best to wait out until you find someone really special.
Nope. Most people I know (myself included) regret losing it young or with someone that didn’t deserve that intimacy to begin with.
Hold onto it while you still can.
Girl save your precious V later for your beloved husband.
Everyone takes that at their own pace. You should not have to rush into that because other people have. I’m sure there are more virgins than you think, alot of people lie about losing it. You’re fine!
17 not very unusual.
First of all, your virginity is nobody else’s business!!!
You are VERY wise to wait!!! Give yourself plenty of time to mature emotionally! I think waiting for marriage is the right thing to do, but if you’re not going to wait for marriage, at least wait until you’re more mature!
No, not at all. There can be an emotional toll that sex ed doesn’t prepare us for if we lose it before we are truly ready, lose it bc we think we should, or lose it to the wrong person or for the wrong reasons. You’ll know when it’s right for you. Don’t be in a hurry. It’ll happen when it’s right for you.
No. 17 is too young to be having Sex.
No it’s not. You’re young and even if you weren’t so young, it’s no one’s business but yours and you should only have sex if you are 100% ready and you truly want to.
Don’t have sex because of age or society tells you you have to. Only have sex when you are ready and you want it.
I’m 21 and I’m a virgin. I have a friend who’s almost 38 and she’s a virgin.
Take your time. Go at your own pace. Do what you are comfortable with and never ever do something you do not want to do.