As a male this concept is kind of foreign to me. I guess I’m curious about this as I recently heard an unfortunate sexual story about a girl I know. Without going into too much detail the guy was kind of a dick (figuratively) in bed. I started to wonder how common that was and if maybe my female family members might have similar experiences that they don’t talk about. It makes me sad that people treat others this way and I guess I’m sort of looking for some feedback as to how common things like that are and if anything ever happens legally as a result.
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Yes
Yes, it’s common
around 1 in 4 people experience sexual assault, and that’s true for both women and men.
From my female friends the norm is bad sexual experiences over good ones. For example many of them were hit on as prepubescent teens by older creepy men or were sexually harassed by classmates even before high school. Sexual harassment is serious but isent taken seriously especially in religious circles where victim blaming is rampant like “your clothes provoked him”
very
It’s incredibly common.
Thank you for being a man who is curious to explore this topic.
The next step is to speak up to other men when you see or hear about these behaviors.
Sadly, yes. Much of it is unreported, and what’s reported often isn’t taken seriously.
Sadly, yes.
Very much so.
Yes. More often the you know. Women you know and love have gone through it.
So common.
Yes.
If you look up the statistics is close to one in 4 or 5 for every woman in the US. For men it’s higher, like one 14/15 but I would image a lot less reported, so possibly the same for men.
I don’t think most people share this with anyone unless it’s someone really close to them at the time it happened and then the person they end up with and trust.
Yes, very much so.
Like insanely common, and while legal repercussions do occasionally happen, they are decidedly more rare unfortunately.
1/3 women and 1/5 men experience assault.
Are you perhaps an alien of sorts?
Lol yes. Every single woman will have at least one.
So they say
Let me ask you this: when you go on a date with someone, do you let a friend know where you’re going?
Women very often will let someone else know where they’re going when on a date with a man, so that in the worst case scenario (man attempting to sexually assault and/or murder you) that friend would be able to pick you up or call emergency services for you.
Very common. I would probably say almost every woman I know has had bad/scary encounters. A lot of men do too, it just isn’t talked about as much.
Yes, generally girls at the age of 8 experienced being sexualised by relatives or peers at some point. It’s very uncomfortable, damaging and threatening
Are u brand new to earth/life? I mean I know this subreddit is called nostupidquestions but come on lol
Yes, very common and you’re right, a lot of us don’t talk about them. There’s a lot of shame attached and thinking it was your fault and it takes years to understand a man is responsible for his own actions.
Unfortunately
Yes.
So common you kind of expect it really…
Literally every woman I’ve asked about the subject has experienced it. Not to say I ask everybody. Of course not, but I’ve never had a woman say “no, I have not experienced that.” Ever. That should speak to how common it is.
Sadly, nearly every woman has a story of that type.
In what country?
Yes
I do not know a woman who hasn’t. Multiple times. Not necessarily men, you are in relationships with— but strangers in public, men who talk to you while walking down the streets etc . . .
This means any situation basically where the threat of something could happen.
I have more times than I can count. The fear is something we have embedded into our routines.
Pretty much every girl I know has been a victim of SA at some point. And I’m not talking about a grab etc. I’m talking about the R word. It’s so much more common than most people think , especially us men I feel
My wife is very humble, very picky, and would rather wait for the right thing than settle for less. I was her first real relationship and we got together in our late 20s. She never put herself out there or provoked anyone in any way. Even she is a victim of SA. She was out at a bar, got roofied and woke up at the bartenders house while being assaulted. I know very very few women that have not been assaulted in some way.
I’d think most women over 30 consider it a given to encounter some form of normalized sexual violence in life. Younger people do seem to be less violent in encounters that are considered normal, but predators will always exist.
yep, and the sad thing is that a lot of little girls being raised in a conservative or very religious households have strict “no pre-marital sex” rhetoric ingrained within them their whole childhood/teenage years are never taught about consent or sexual boundaries as its a taboo or “unholy” subject. unfortunately this can result in molestation from family members without the child having any ability to realize what happened or how to tell their parents.
then, when they ‘rebel’ and starts exploring their sexuality, they are so much more likely to be pushed past their boundaries or even raped without even knowing it.
it took me until my mid-twenties to realize that rape is something that can actually happen within relationships and its not just “scary strange men attacking you out of nowhere.”
I actually don’t know even one woman who doesn’t have a really fucking sad horrible sexual story
I would bet that at least 80% of women/girls over the age of 13 have been AT LEAST made to feel uncomfortable in a sexual way, verbally and/or physically. Also would guess that over 80% of sexually active women have a bad story about a male sexual partner. Them being a dick, being too forceful, or even hurting them. Women are sadly often treated like objects by men in our society.
Have you just not been listening or ???