Devils advocate: it’s important to be beautiful in life because life will be extremely easy for someone that is beautiful. Society has made this a thing.
I think it depends situation wise. It’s not important to be beautiful but if being beautiful is getting you somewhere then maybe it’s a catch! Otherwise to each their own! If I meet a woman with a cool personality, I instantly get drawn towards them! I don’t notice their beauty or any other feature as look as their personality is attractive!
I think it’s more important to feel good about yourself, as beauty is extremely subjective. For example several ladies I work with are older but the way they style their clothes and manage to look elegant every single day makes them extremely beautiful to me. I hope I can do the same when I reach that age.
It’s important to be confident. I reject the idea that all people are (physically) beautiful. Life is not a dove commercial, some people are objectively more physically attractive than others.
But all people can strive to be the healthiest, most confident version of themselves. It is important to put self-work in and feel self-secure. Own your looks whether you are traditionally beautiful or not. Learn to dress to your body. Learn how your hair likes to fall. Take care of your skin, take care of your clothes. If you are a clean and polished person who feels in control of your life and emotions, you can walk into any room, beautiful or not.
I think it is also very very very important to have a space to be “un-beautiful.” My home is where I peel all the layers back and get to be a gremlin in a ratty t-shirt. You also need time to forget about being beautiful and just authentically decompress. No one should have to perform all the time.
I live in NYC… it is FAR TOO important here. Absolutely maddening that people are so transactional and superficial. Would love to move to a city where beauty doesn’t matter as much as heart and empathy.
I told myself growing up that it wasn’t important, and I made peace with being treated like I didn’t matter. Then I had a brief glow up and realized how much better people treated me. Now I’m back to my regular ugly duckling self and back to being treated like gum on the bottom of a shoe. So I would say, if you’re a social person, then yes, it’s important.
I used to think it was important, but now I don’t feel that way anymore. For some people it’s very important to feel beautiful themselves, and to be seen as beautiful by others. But I think that just adds unnecessary stress to your life when the people who genuinely value you for who you are will not give a damn what you look like or how beautiful you are. The people who care that much outside of yourself about how beautiful you are don’t really care about you. They care about how you make them look, or how you make them feel, but they don’t care about who you are.
Sometimes it’s very nice to feel beautiful and to be told that you look beautiful. And there is value in that kind of validation and attention. But if it’s coming from people who only care about how you look, then I don’t believe that it has any value at all.
And most importantly, if you feel like beauty is important, then that’s something you need to create in yourself for yourself and validate in yourself and for yourself.
Nah. I’m glad I’m not. I had to develop a lot more social and personal skills because I didn’t have that to lean on. I’ve had men I was with TELL me I was beautiful, but I think that was more about the entire essence of my person, not just the outward appearance (ie, some halo effect). And I think most people can experience that even if they don’t meet mainstream beauty standards.
I do think a sense of competence is important as are decent social skills. And the social skills can look like a lot of different things. I get a long way by being highly competent at things, being straightforward in a generally cheerful way (so people trust me), and having a good sense of humor that has a heavy dose of self deprecation.
Harsh truth, yes women are judged for their looks.
But what I’ve come realise is, people don’t expect you to have ‘particular’ features like a sharp nose, jawline, hour glass body shape.
What they expect is you look YOUR BEST. And you look presentable.
All women can look beautiful if they learn how to highlight their best features.
I have a close friend who’s a popular actress in my country, she once told me that even for actors it doesn’t really matter who has the most attractive features it matters how they ultimately present themselves.
At the end of the day it’s about portrayal.
That made me think a lot. Now I only dress in ways that ‘portray’ the best side of me.
I make it a point to put in effort to feel beautiful.
It is important because makes life a lot easier and I honestly believe it creates a totally different perspective of the world. The lived experience that I have is very different than the one many of my friends have had, as they have told me. BUT I think it is far more important to be kind, genuine, honest, intelligent, loving, generous, resilient, persistent, moral and selfless.
It entirely depends on your own values system, and whether or not being physically beautiful is something that you’ve decided matters to you. Personally, it doesn’t factor that much into how I view myself. I consider myself unconventionally attractive, but I’ll never have that conventionally gorgeous bombshell thing and I don’t put a lot of energy into chasing it or lamenting it. I take a lot of pride in other qualities, like my intelligence, resilience, and sense of humor, and have gotten a lot out of life.
Or, in the words of Judge Judy: Beauty fades. Dumb is forever.
This is like asking “is it important to be wealthy?” “Is it important to have a good family?” “Is it important to be tall?” … It makes life a lot easier, but its not the only thing that matters.
I don’t think it matters nearly as much as we’re told growing up. My self-confidence shot up once I stopped trying so hard to be pretty, cute or beautiful. It’s nice to not pick myself apart all the time.
I think it’s important to maintain your physical appearance/health. If we’re looking at the bigger picture, none of it realllly matter once you perish lol but like what someone else said, it will make your life so much more easier.
It is important that you see yourself beautiful. You will live with yourself until you die. You don’t want to be with an ugly self everyday. You don’t have to be beautiful in someone else’s eyes. You only need to be beautiful in your eyes 🥰 Do what makes you feel beautiful!
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for some people it is, for some it isn’t
Devils advocate: it’s important to be beautiful in life because life will be extremely easy for someone that is beautiful. Society has made this a thing.
It’s not important but the honest truth is it will make your life a little easier.
It is quite important to be able to see yourself as beautiful
I think it depends situation wise. It’s not important to be beautiful but if being beautiful is getting you somewhere then maybe it’s a catch! Otherwise to each their own! If I meet a woman with a cool personality, I instantly get drawn towards them! I don’t notice their beauty or any other feature as look as their personality is attractive!
I think it’s more important to feel good about yourself, as beauty is extremely subjective. For example several ladies I work with are older but the way they style their clothes and manage to look elegant every single day makes them extremely beautiful to me. I hope I can do the same when I reach that age.
It’s important to be self aware and confident. Beauty is a standard that is the worse moving target of them all.
Beautiful is subjective and we’re not everyone cup of tea so just be yourself and be confident😌 – that’s how i try to remind myself everyday,i tried!
Beauty is very subjective and it means different things to different people.
It’s important to be a good person for me.
Beautiful people do absolutely get treated better, but it’s even more important to like yourself.
It’s important to be confident. I reject the idea that all people are (physically) beautiful. Life is not a dove commercial, some people are objectively more physically attractive than others.
But all people can strive to be the healthiest, most confident version of themselves. It is important to put self-work in and feel self-secure. Own your looks whether you are traditionally beautiful or not. Learn to dress to your body. Learn how your hair likes to fall. Take care of your skin, take care of your clothes. If you are a clean and polished person who feels in control of your life and emotions, you can walk into any room, beautiful or not.
I think it is also very very very important to have a space to be “un-beautiful.” My home is where I peel all the layers back and get to be a gremlin in a ratty t-shirt. You also need time to forget about being beautiful and just authentically decompress. No one should have to perform all the time.
I think its important to put in effort and pride in your appearance. Which then you can look beautiful!
I live in NYC… it is FAR TOO important here. Absolutely maddening that people are so transactional and superficial. Would love to move to a city where beauty doesn’t matter as much as heart and empathy.
Being attractive makes life easier, but it is more important to see yourself in a positive way. Confidence is beautiful and can get you far in life.
Based on my observations it certainly helps
It helps, yeah. People do treat you differently when you’re good looking. But in the long run, being smart, kind and reliable gets you further.
It’s important to have the same healthy self esteem that beautiful people have.
No. It’s important to be normally attractive, average, nothing outstanding, but not ugly.
I told myself growing up that it wasn’t important, and I made peace with being treated like I didn’t matter. Then I had a brief glow up and realized how much better people treated me. Now I’m back to my regular ugly duckling self and back to being treated like gum on the bottom of a shoe. So I would say, if you’re a social person, then yes, it’s important.
It’s important to be clean and presentable. If you start trying to look beautiful you’re going to go broke chasing endless body projects.
I am objectively ugly. My life is much, much harder because of it.
I used to think it was important, but now I don’t feel that way anymore. For some people it’s very important to feel beautiful themselves, and to be seen as beautiful by others. But I think that just adds unnecessary stress to your life when the people who genuinely value you for who you are will not give a damn what you look like or how beautiful you are. The people who care that much outside of yourself about how beautiful you are don’t really care about you. They care about how you make them look, or how you make them feel, but they don’t care about who you are.
Sometimes it’s very nice to feel beautiful and to be told that you look beautiful. And there is value in that kind of validation and attention. But if it’s coming from people who only care about how you look, then I don’t believe that it has any value at all.
And most importantly, if you feel like beauty is important, then that’s something you need to create in yourself for yourself and validate in yourself and for yourself.
Nah. I’m glad I’m not. I had to develop a lot more social and personal skills because I didn’t have that to lean on. I’ve had men I was with TELL me I was beautiful, but I think that was more about the entire essence of my person, not just the outward appearance (ie, some halo effect). And I think most people can experience that even if they don’t meet mainstream beauty standards.
I do think a sense of competence is important as are decent social skills. And the social skills can look like a lot of different things. I get a long way by being highly competent at things, being straightforward in a generally cheerful way (so people trust me), and having a good sense of humor that has a heavy dose of self deprecation.
Yes
Sadly I‘m experiencing again and again that it is important to be skinny.
I don’t agree, but all the men I ever dated seem to think that.
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I think life is easier the more attractive you are, but you don’t owe it to anyone to try and meet beauty standards
From the inside and honestly ones beauty definitely shows outwardly. Its just so important to be happy with who you are.
Of course putting in effort and believing your attractive is so important too. But not everyone is going to find you beautiful and thats ok too.
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Depends how you define beautiful, and I think there are a lot of way to be beautiful perhaps the most beautiful ones aren’t noticeable straightaway
It helps in some situations. People notice looks first.
Harsh truth, yes women are judged for their looks.
But what I’ve come realise is, people don’t expect you to have ‘particular’ features like a sharp nose, jawline, hour glass body shape.
What they expect is you look YOUR BEST. And you look presentable.
All women can look beautiful if they learn how to highlight their best features.
I have a close friend who’s a popular actress in my country, she once told me that even for actors it doesn’t really matter who has the most attractive features it matters how they ultimately present themselves.
At the end of the day it’s about portrayal.
That made me think a lot. Now I only dress in ways that ‘portray’ the best side of me.
I make it a point to put in effort to feel beautiful.
If you want to transcend socioeconomic class, it’s more important than a college degree.
It’s also important to be realistic with yourself. You can be a beautiful person without being externally traditionally, attractive.
It’s important to know you are beautiful
It is important because makes life a lot easier and I honestly believe it creates a totally different perspective of the world. The lived experience that I have is very different than the one many of my friends have had, as they have told me. BUT I think it is far more important to be kind, genuine, honest, intelligent, loving, generous, resilient, persistent, moral and selfless.
It’s important to FIND beauty. In yourself, in others, in life. Seeing it and feeling it, whatever beauty means to you, is what matters.
It entirely depends on your own values system, and whether or not being physically beautiful is something that you’ve decided matters to you. Personally, it doesn’t factor that much into how I view myself. I consider myself unconventionally attractive, but I’ll never have that conventionally gorgeous bombshell thing and I don’t put a lot of energy into chasing it or lamenting it. I take a lot of pride in other qualities, like my intelligence, resilience, and sense of humor, and have gotten a lot out of life.
Or, in the words of Judge Judy: Beauty fades. Dumb is forever.
This is like asking “is it important to be wealthy?” “Is it important to have a good family?” “Is it important to be tall?” … It makes life a lot easier, but its not the only thing that matters.
In this society, having beauty opens up doors for people sadly… but I think it’s more important to feel beautiful!
I don’t think it matters nearly as much as we’re told growing up. My self-confidence shot up once I stopped trying so hard to be pretty, cute or beautiful. It’s nice to not pick myself apart all the time.
I think it’s important to maintain your physical appearance/health. If we’re looking at the bigger picture, none of it realllly matter once you perish lol but like what someone else said, it will make your life so much more easier.
I think it’s important to take care of yourself, which makes someone beautiful and radiate from the inside out.
Yes sadly
It is important that you see yourself beautiful. You will live with yourself until you die. You don’t want to be with an ugly self everyday. You don’t have to be beautiful in someone else’s eyes. You only need to be beautiful in your eyes 🥰 Do what makes you feel beautiful!