I need advice on what to do, from a woman and man’s perspective. My gf is 20F and I’m 22M we’ve been together for 7 months, and our sex life is kind of just dry. She says it’s not me and it’s her but idk what to do or how to feel and we’re both frustrated but with me being the one with a higher sex drive I’m the more frustrated one. The longer I go not having sex I get sort of upset but, and I feel bad because she can’t help it rn but neither can I, it’s my body, I really want to have sex and it’s been almost 2 months. And I’m just really unsatisfied.
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I hate to break it to you… but you will have to break it with her
When this happens you break up. So many people waste their lives in sexless relationships. Why?
No, not really normal
Totally depends on the relationship. Has anything happened recently outside the bedroom that could be causing a dry spell? It’s totally normally from study stress, work stress, mental health going through a rough patch, insecurities about your body etc. Have you asked your gf about anything like that? Especially if she’s saying it’s her not you.
Plus we’ve gotten pretty good about it but I really need my partner to rekindle that romance with me after the dry patch. Dates in the park, showering together, movie nights, massages: these all put me in the head space where sex could be something really fun and enjoyable, which is quite normal for women.