I have a few friends who whenever I ask them if they want to do something, they have to check in with their partner. Just wondering how many people do this? Does it apply to every time you want to hang out with people?
I have a few friends who whenever I ask them if they want to do something, they have to check in with their partner. Just wondering how many people do this? Does it apply to every time you want to hang out with people?
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Yes? Communication is the bedrock of any relationship.
yeah it’s basic communication to me (especially if you live together); it’s not about getting permission it’s just about relaying information. it would be a little weird if i just walked out the door without a word or if my partner came home and i wasn’t there unexpectedly.
Sometimes, sure, if it’s suggested that I host at my house, I’ll check with my partner to make sure he’s ok with it because it’s his house too. In general, however, no. We both use a google calendar and share our calendars with one another so if I just check my calendar when making plans with friends. If it’s something he’s invited to, too, I’ll add it to my calendar and then invite him through google lol
We don’t have kids, though. I assume if you have kids it might be more important to check in to make sure your partner to make sure someone’s on kid duty.
Yes. Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with this. Communication is so important.
How are they phrasing it? If they’re just checking their schedules / budgets for the month then I think no big deal. If I make plans I always talk to my husband just to make sure I’ve not double booked myself (something I’ve done quite often because we are very busy and have super active social lives).
I don’t think that someone saying offhandedly “let me check with my husband” means that they have to ask permission. You’re sharing your life with a person, it makes sense to speak to them to coordinate free time.
For childcare it makes sense