I’ll make plans to go out, hang with people, or even take a little trip and I’m excited at first but as the date gets closer I start dreading it. It’s not social anxiety exactly, more like I just don’t want to deal with the effort. Then I feel guilty. Anyone else deal with this weird cycle?
Is it normal to dread “fun” plans once they’re actually happening?
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Yeah man, I totally get ya. It’s that low-key anxiety creeping in, telling ya to bail out. IMHO, findin’ balance is key. Don’t force yaself to be Mr. Social 24/7, but also don’t become a total hermit. It’s tough, but ya gotta push thru the dread a bit, even tho it sucks 🙁 Trust me, it gets easier over time. Hang in there, buddy. :)👍
I get this too. To me the more busy the thing is the more I dread it. Almost every single time I end up having a blast but my brain just goes into panic mode and wants me to cancel.
Yup, I prefer things to happen spontaneously and also that I’m fine if it’s me that has made the plan, ask me to go a place in four weeks time, I’ll probably agree but the dread will set in. If I ask you to come somewhere in four weeks time I’ll be fine.
When ever I have this feeling it tends to be before a really good time. Like for one of my vacations I wanted to back out so bad but ended up making some core memories and had a lot of fun. When ever I get this feeling I just tell myself that it’s not as bad as you think and I’ll have fun