My boyfriend and I broke up a few days ago after being together for three years. Now, I know he’s been talking with girls. I’m not sure if he’s just making new friends or if there’s more to it, but it hurts. I feel replaced. During our relationship, he always respected our boundaries, so seeing him connect with someone else so soon just sucks.
I understand that we’re no longer together and he’s free to do as he pleases, but I can’t help feeling jealous. How do i stop being jealous about it?
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Stand up, you guys broke up maybe it’s time to move on. Go out meet new people and stop thinking about an ex
Find a new hot guy you can talk to……go talk to new peeps, date enjoy yourself with others
Your feelings are completely normal. How do you know those things about him though? Do you two live together? Do you still have each other on social media? Because while feeling the way you do is normal, it’s not healthy to expose yourself to that if you’re hurt or had strong feelings for him. You may need to unfollow him on social media and stop keeping tabs on him, especially while you grieve. If you two live together, find a way to move out. There is no need to torture yourself.
It’s normal if you still have feelings for him,even a little. Like maybe he broke up with you and you didn’t want to. It’s going to take time but not looking him up on social media and looking at pics or messages or comments, etc is a good way to start. The only way you “know” he’s been talking to girls is if you are actively checking in on him.
Don’t do that. It’s going to do nothing for you but make it harder to move on.
A few days after the break up these feelings are a normal part of the process. You’re disengaging but mentally that takes time. Just don’t let jealousy make you act like an idiot. You broke up for a reason. Don’t get fooled just because he looks shiny again because someone else wants to play with him, he’s still the same guy you broke up with.
So the first thing you need to know is that 「DO NOT THINK ABOUT SUNK COST」
Those time , memories , money are gone , and no matter how you think , you definitely cant get back.
The way i cope with my broke up is to focus on myself . The reason is obviously that if broking up , there is no relation between you two anymore , just like a stranger . So i just block all the contacted way , and those things might trigger my memories .
So in conclusion , the most effective , practical way to deal with your problem , is to block contact , delet photos , get rid of those presents ( if they dont worth a lot ) , and maybe tell your friend not to talk about that boy in front of you .
Sounds a too rational decision , but it is effective , from my own experience.
Yes, it is normal to feel jealous because you haven’t yet had enough time to process your feelings and fully separate from them.
What you need to do to fully separate is to properly mourn the loss of the relationship, this can take a week or a few months depending on the length and depth of the relationship.
Fill your newly found free time with some enjoyable activity (anything will do), like sports, music, video games, movies, etc.
Do not stalk your ex! Resist the urge to look at their social media, interact with them, or do anything together until you are over them, if you don’t it just makes this process longer, almost like hitting the reset button.
Finally, if the break was rough or involved some kind of trauma, talk with your close friends and consider therapy.
Your feeling are valid. Seek some friends to lean on during this hardship. Wishing you luck.
Yeah, that is fairly normal type of feelings that you are experiencing.