I feel like everyone I’ve ever known has loads of stories to tell — everyone has this time they’ve gotten in the news, or this time they went semi-pro in a hobby/sport, or been adjacent to a major world event, or otherwise had some movie-sounding shit happen to them every year or two
But I don’t know man. Every day I just wake up, take care of my responsibilities for the day, chill out, and go to sleep. Nothing seems to happen to me, even though I’d like to be the kind of person whom things happen to. If I were asked “tell me something interesting about you” in a job interview or “what’s the craziest thing you’ve ever experienced” on a date, I’d have absolutely no idea what to say
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“Every day I just wake up, take care of my responsibilities for the day, chill out, and go to sleep. Nothing seems to happen to me.”
Nothing will “happen” to you if you don’t make the opportunities. Ya gotta MAKE things happen! Like, you’re not going to go semi-pro in a sport if you don’t train really hard in the sport as an amateur to begin with.
This is the difference between living a passive life and an active one, like when you hear 27 year old virgins going on about “I dunno, I just assumed I would get a girlfriend later” and then ten years passed them by. Things don’t just happen to you, ya gotta create the opportunities to make them happen.
If I was asked about the craziest things I’ve experienced then many people wouldn’t even believe me.
Get out there, meet people, do things, take some risks, and the stories will rack up by themselves.
Don’t Jinx yourself
I used to feel the same way , like everyone else was living in technicolor and I was just in grayscale. But I realized most of those ‘movie moments’ people talk about? They’re edited highlights. What really sticks with people is how you show up, how you care, how you stay consistent. That’s rare, and that’s interesting in its own way.
Try not to compare yourself to others. It’s hard to do, but just focus on what makes you happy. Also, it’s pretty normal for people to embellish when telling stories about themselves or focus only on the interesting details. Everyone has big chunks of time dedicated to normal everyday BS, they’re just not talking about it.
On one hand: most people live pretty mundane lives. On the other hand: it’s fairly rare that interesting things are just going to happen to you. It’s often a matter of being in the right/wrong place at the right/wrong time. The odds of being in that situation increase the more you take risks or break routine.
It’s not necessarily a bad thing that “interesting” things aren’t happening to you. It usually means you have a lot of stability in your life. Be it being financially secure, living in a safe environment, having a stable job, or just being personally stable emotionally and mentally.
I’m someone who has a lot of “interesting” stories, but the majority of them are sourced from chaotic periods in my life where I was facing a lot of adversity, or surrounding myself with chaotic people. I can look back and laugh on a lot of those stories now, but they were not eliciting any positive emotions when I was going through them.
You do know you can lie, right? If you can’t be an interesting person just pretend to be one. Just make sure you know your audience and make sure your stories aren’t too crazy out there. They need to wow people but also be believable.
Also, be mysterious. Don’t reveal too much about yourself. You want people to wonder what kind of person you are. It makes them more interested in you.
Remember, It’s not a lie if you believe it.
I feel that every single day.
Yes that’s pretty common nowadays because we compare ourselves to unrealistic life expectations from people we see online living their best life.
As someone with schizoid personality disorder … relatable.
most people are lying to appear to have a life.