I (21F) have been with my boyfriend (25M) for a little over two years. We have some issues in our relationship but nothing that I think is for sure a deal breaker, and can probably be worked out. Other than these issues, I’d say our relationship is pretty good. I love him very much. I like envisioning a life with him a lot. We discuss marriage and children and family values and life goals and we’re almost always totally on the same page. I could see myself eventually settling down with him, but when I imagine it, I just get so disappointed that I won’t get to live with my best friend and spend my 20s with her lol. I think she’s my soulmate in a friend, our friendship is just so healing and vibrant and electric and hilarious, and honestly I feel this way about a lot of my other friends. It’s just this connection that is so well-rounded and deep and magnetic and fulfilling and validating, and just feels so much deeper than my romantic relationship with my boyfriend. Like I feel like I’m physically connected to my best friend. We fit together like puzzle pieces and I keep waiting for that feeling with him but it just doesn’t happen. I feel very comfortable around him and I trust him but it’s just nowhere near the level of authenticity and genuine acceptance that I have with my friends. I’m very into my femininity and the balance of feminine and masculine so I’m very aware that relationships with other girls is a magical exciting experience, and that I tend to prefer my relationships with men be more calming and grounding and secure. Could this just be a girl thing? Like girls have these kinds of connections with each other that they don’t have with men? Or is it a sign I’m not in the right relationship? Do women generally feel this way about their boyfriends?
TL;DR: I feel a stronger trust and connection with my best girl friends than I do with my boyfriend who I really love, I’m worried it means I’m in the wrong relationship.
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>We have some issues in our relationship but nothing that I think is for sure a deal breaker, and can probably be worked out
That’s not exactly a glowing review. If someone tried to sell this to me I’d pass.
Honestly I don’t think it’s normal. What do you actually like about your boyfriend? Because I noticed this was completely absent from your post. This is bordering on belong to r/AreTheStraightsOK