I don’t want to have to call my “ex” a situationship because it was more like friends with benefits but I wanted more. We met on a dating app and I met him at his place. From then on I’d meet him at his place, we’d watch a movie, have sex, and maybe he’d order dessert. This went on for five months.
When I met my boyfriend he said he wanted things to be exclusive so I stopped texting my ex. Even though I knew my ex for a while nothing was official and it’s not like he cared anyway so I just gradually stopped texting him. I’ve noticed he’s been liking some specific reels so I think I should explain to him a little bit. I’ve also been thinking about him because I feel like there’s some questions I should’ve asked before I just ghosted him. I am a hundred percent sure that I love my boyfriend and wouldn’t have it any other way.
The only thing I’m worried about is how my boyfriend would feel. I would feel guilty texting my ex without him knowing. Should I feel guilty when I know I’m not going to be lured back to my ex? I also don’t want him to think I still like him. Would showing him the texts help? Or, should I just tell him about it? Is it better that I stay no contact with my ex?
TL;DR I ghost the guy I was fwb with after meeting my boyfriend. I feel like I need closure from fwb guy because we knew each other for five months. I’m unsure of the way to go about this because I don’t want bf to think I still have feelings for fwb guy.
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No. Let it go. “closure” doesn’t exist anyway.
We often don’t get closure in life and when we do it is seldom the closure we hope to feel. If you truly want something with your boyfriend you will leave this door closed. If you feel you can’t possibly move on without reaching out to this ex then you should probably let your boyfriend go.