I’ve been seeing this 16 year old, she’s alot like me and we’re both at the same level of emotional maturity, and she listens to me talk and we vent to eachother, and she says she like likes me. is it okay for us to date? because I seriously cant find anyone else like her.
Is it okay for a 13 year old and 16 year old to date?
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No,it’s not okay.A 13 year old and a 16 year olds brain are on different level.I think a 15 year old can date a 16 year old.Its more appropriate.
Honestly, it’s risky because age gaps raise red flags. If it’s real, take it slow and keep it safe.
Nope. NOT okay.
Nope, if you’re 16 then 14 is your limit imo
“Dating” as in hanging out together or “dating” as in physical contact?
Absolutely not okay. At all.
I really appreciate you asking that shows you care about what’s right. Honestly? A 13-year-old and a 16-year-old dating is not a good idea. Even if you feel emotionally close, there’s a big difference in maturity, power, and even the way the law sees it in many places. At your age, a three-year gap matters a lot.
It’s okay to care about each other as friends, but it’s best to keep it at that. You both deserve connections that are healthy and safe for where you are in life right now.
I was in a situation like this. People like this do not have good intentions, ever. I promise you’ll meet someone perfect for you, she’s not the only one. Think of it this way, would you date a 10 year old?
One is old enough to drive and the other could be in middle school. It’s too big of a gap. 2-3 years when you are 30 is totally different than when your world changes dramatically in just six months
Uhm… If there really is no one else and you’re in the middle of nowhere then sure But if you’re from a densely populated area you shouldn’t have a problem with someone else
i would say that when you are 16 its +/-1,5years is okay age cap
if you are turning 14 this year and she turned 16this year… maybe but i think its still little odd
“‘Ive been seeing this 16 year old, she’s alot like me and we’re both at the same level of emotional maturity”
That’s a shame. At 16 she should view you the same way you view a 10-year-old or younger.
Romantic feelings?
Hey, if she goes to school at a regular high school, she’s surrounded by 14-18year olds everyday who are datable, attractive, and some of them might find her attractive too. She hears them talking, sees them interact, how they communicate, flirt, dress, and behave themselves. The reason she’s spending all her time with you is that all those teens won’t have her. They see what you can’t see yet.
What a 10yr old can’t see yet. Or an 8 year or 9-year-old.
It’s not ok. It will never be ok.
You don’t know why she’s like this, but that part doesn’t matter. Stop talking to her and talk to peers your own age. It’s ok if you don’t find “anyone else” like her. You’ve got a lot of time to date people and a lot of years of life to grow and change. Spending time with her will stunt your growth.
Thanks for the feedback guys, i’ll turn her down softly and tell her i want to stay friends.
13 years old is too young to date anyone
No.
Sorry hon, that’s a major distance in brain maturity. I know it doesn’t seem that way cause the gap isn’t huge but 16 is when they have more adult perceptions and start viewing themselves as one.
No. Stay within a year, until you are 18
NOPE
Think about it like this an 11-year-old and a 13-year-old could date but an 11 year-old and a 16-year-old definitely cannot and if a 16-year-old an 18-year-old..
No, in two years she will be an 18 year old adult and you will be….15. This is not ok by any means. For now, this is called a crush and my guess is you will both have outgrown each other by then. Unless she wants to risk consequences, you will need to contact this woman when you are 18 and she is 21. Then it will be ok.
Once 17 it’s illegal and if any sexual contact they can go to jail.
Uh, NO. Three years wouldn’t be a big deal if you were 26 and she was 23. But she’s barely a teenager and I’m willing to bet she’s not in high school yet. End it or you could get in serious trouble and get a bad reputation too.
No, that is utterly wrong, and if intimacy was to happen, then you are an underage child who cannot consent. Please question why this person is dating a 13 year old child, and not someone their own age. Serious huge red flags. I’d say someone one year younger is the max at 16.