Not a parent, but my fiancé’s siblings (13m/10/F) will be staying with us for summer break. Their mom lives in Dallas, and they currently share one room with their mom and youngest sibling who’s six . They may still be sharing one bed, but I think since the 13 year old has grown, he might be sleeping on a couch.
only the 13 and 10 year old will be staying with us.
We have some air mattresses, and also have a big couch, and another full size mattress. We have a “spare” bedroom that is currently being used as our work from home office space. We COULD have them both sleep in the living room (one couch, one on mattress), but it feels weird to have them out there if we have another room. I’m thinking of moving our WFH stuff into our bedroom and setting up the other as a guest bedroom. But is it okay for them to share a private bedroom? Are the couch (even if we move it), and the mattress appropriate sleeping arrangements for them? Or should we be looking at getting a bunk bed? It’s kinda a big purchase for us if it’s just for the summer.
We’re not parents, and we both grew up with the “lay your head somewhere soft and be thankful” mindset, but we want to make sure we’re doing this right.
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They’re a brother and sister who are temporarily with you. There SHOULD be no issue with this. They may argue and gripe, but they should otherwise be fine. If they were going camping as a family they’d likely be in even closer quarters. Just putting it into perspective.
I mean, you just do what you can do and afford. If that means sharing a room and sleeping on air mattresses then it’ll work.
You might try checking marketplace to see if any bunkbeds with real mattresses pop up that are affordable, if they are going to be there for 3 months or if it’s possible it will end up being more than just this year.
Not ideal, but okay.
Especially for a summer vacation it’s fine and really common.
I shared a bed with my brother for most of our childhoods, while it was mostly fine I think we both would have definitely preferred to be separate. You should set the bed up in the office for one of them and then give them the choice of whether they would rather share the room with the bed and the air mattress, or one gets the room while the other gets the couch.