Yup. And if you feel bad about it, just remember that people hate holidays for a reason. It’s what brings the whole family back together, so you’ll get to see them again and just act normal towards them.
Yes, self-preservation is paramount to survival. I’ve been estranged from a part of my family for nearly 20 years. Disengaging saved my relationship with a huge part of my family.
Depends what you mean by ‘stress you out’. Do they take long showers and use up all the hot water? Do they leave cheese crumbs on the sofa cushions? Annoying, but not worthy of cutting someone off.
I’ll take a different approach. It depends on how/why they stress you out. You didn’t give many details but you will have to deal with people who “stress you out” all your life. So part of your solution “may” be to look at what stresses you out about them and learn to deal with it or learn to discuss your feelings with them and why they stress you out (i.e. conflict resolution). It takes more work but hey, you only have one family.
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Just because they are family does not mean you need to talk to them.
It’s fine to cut off anyone that you choose.
Yup. And if you feel bad about it, just remember that people hate holidays for a reason. It’s what brings the whole family back together, so you’ll get to see them again and just act normal towards them.
It depends. You need an objective assessment on why you are being stressed out by them, which you may or may not be able to do on your own.
Yes, self-preservation is paramount to survival. I’ve been estranged from a part of my family for nearly 20 years. Disengaging saved my relationship with a huge part of my family.
Yes, do so immediately, if you want you can tell them first to fuck off and if they don’t then sayonara desgraciado!
just take longer and longer to respond.
as bad as they are, when directly confronted, they get worse.
Depends what you mean by ‘stress you out’. Do they take long showers and use up all the hot water? Do they leave cheese crumbs on the sofa cushions? Annoying, but not worthy of cutting someone off.
I’ll take a different approach. It depends on how/why they stress you out. You didn’t give many details but you will have to deal with people who “stress you out” all your life. So part of your solution “may” be to look at what stresses you out about them and learn to deal with it or learn to discuss your feelings with them and why they stress you out (i.e. conflict resolution). It takes more work but hey, you only have one family.
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Yep. I’ve done it.
Yes it is
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Absolutely. It’s tough, but peace of mind is worth it.