We were at dinner, and he ordered for me without asking. I said I didn’t want that dish and he brushed it off like I was being picky. That little moment cracked something open, it wasn’t the pasta, it was the pattern. He’d been making decisions for us for years: where to live, what to eat, who to hang out with. I realized I’d been ceded my preferences so many times that I’d stopped speaking up. I walked out of the restaurant and we ended it that night. It feels dramatic to end a relationship over a meal, but it also feels like the first honest thing I’ve done in a long time.
Is it too dramatic to break up over a plate of pasta?
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Not too dramatic. That was the straw that broke the camel’s back, not the whole load.
Be glad you stood up for yourself. You won’t let someone else treat you this way again.
You’re not breaking up over pasta, you’re breaking up because he’s ludicrously controlling. Not dramatic at all.
so what advice are you looking for here?
Nope it makes perfect sense. He’s clearly not heard you and just thinks you will cater to him. Well done and the honest feeling confirms it!
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If he’s been consistently disregarding your opinion about important stuff, like the place you live for example, you should’ve broken up with him a long time ago. Rather than the plate of pasta causing the breakup, I believe you’ve tolerated mistreatment for a long time now and your patience had to eventually run out. The instance which pushed you over the edge is up to chance, it just happened to be this one.
Also, what do you need advice with? You already made the decision, so I’m not certain what I can advise you on. Rather than advice, I believe you’re seeking reassurance or validation. A subreddit like r/offmychest or r/vent would be more appropriate for that purposes.
Controlling someone’s every decision in a relationship, even as to what they eat, is not normal. Moreover, the fact that he brushed you off when you spoke up is a huge red flag as well. This is not a healthy relationship. Definitely cut ties with him.
My friend was in a relationship, which her so, out of the blue,ended it when she parked her car in the wrong spot
Actually, you don’t need a reason to break up with him. You have the freedom at any time to choose a different path in life.