Like the title says, I’ve always done this for as long as i remember. I’m a 27 year old women. I would always hold the doors for any person if i was going into or out of the same building and if I saw them coming to the door. People usually say thank you and I get really shy inside although I do smile and nod as a reply.
Is it weird I do this? I’ve never seen a women my age or younger do this kind of thing. It feels like I’m oddly masculine even though I just do it to be nice. I’ve seen and had men do it though which i think is common. Maybe it’s just a manners thing? I’m usually polite if a bit awkward.
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itâs not weird at all. Someone could be having an absolutely horrible day and just that once simple act of kindness goes a long way, regardless of age
Is it weird I drink water
Not at all.
Is it weird to be a polite human being? These days it looks like it yes.
Keep up the good work
Not weird. I hold doors for everyone, regardless of age or gender, itâs just a courtesy that is often lost in society today.
Never stop holding those doors, itâs a quiet rebellion in a world thatâs forgotten kindness. Politeness isnât weakness; itâs power in disguise, and youâre wielding it like a legend.
In Canada this would be seen as the polite thing to no matter the age of the person you hold the door open for. Then the polite response would be for the person walking through to say âThank youâ. It is seen as rude more often than not if you donât hold the door open for the next person, unless they are not directly behind you, or close to behind you.
Letâs all follow suit and open doors to anyone and everyone who might appreciate a simple gesture of kindness.
No
Hereâs the obligatory asshole American to comment snidely about âpoliteâ Canadians (polite being a euphemism for âsoftâ):
âBLAH BLAH BLAH, something about sory. BLAH BLAH BLAH. Guns!â
No, holding the door is just nice to do. Vs letting it slam on people.
No! Not weird and OP itâs nice to hear you have such great manners. Iâve heard older women (Iâm one) can be rude and just let the door slam behind them..not even checking to see if someone is behind them. I hold the doors open for everyone. My personal opinion is to hold the door open for men, because I feel people just assume men always hold the door for women, but courtesy goes both ways.
I do the same thing and most people say Thank You. When someone else holds the door for me I always say Thank You.
It’s not weird. You’re polite.
We dont know where you live and whats generally acceptable culturally. Its a nice gesture and well appreciated to hold doors for people where I live.
Nah thatâs just being polite
I don’t know where you are but here in Canada we all do it. Not holding the door is rude here.
Iâm female and senior citizen and hold the door if Iâm going in first
I’m a guy, But I hold the door for everyone regardless of Race, Gender, or attitude!! I’m just a polite person and enjoy Being Nice to others. It’s never weird to be kind and respectful to others!
No, I’ve always done this too and I’m a female too. I just feel it’s polite. Good for you for having standards and being another polite person!
Thank you so much for holding the door open!
Itâs weird if you decide who to hold doors for based on age
It’s just a reflex as you go through a door holding it 0.2s longer than normal is just how it is and if it isnt for you then that is weird.
Kindness knows no age. I have held the door for thousands of people and had the door held for me in kind by everyone from tiny children to doddering old men. It’s just part of the dance of life. Hold the door for people.
If you’re behind me, I’ll hold the door for you. It’s just rude if I don’t.
I do this too as a 47 yr old woman. What are you supposed to do, slam doors in people’s face?
I was always taught to hold the door for the person right behind me, but of course particularly if they are older or other-mobilitied.
I donât expect any big response. A nod or thank you is nice but not expected. If they donât like it for some odd reason or say something strange, oh well. That wouldnât affect me much. I donât do things to get a reward. I do things for myself and my own value system.
Not at all! I hold the door open for all ages and genders
I think itâs extremely rude when youâre entering a door and see someone coming and just let it close. So no, I donât think itâs weird, I think it should be normal practice, but we live in a world where people have become very self absorbed. Good on you for being considerate of others, I wish there were more like you.
I like to hold the door for someone who is 50ft away, stare them in the eyes, and wait until they start to slowly jog because I’m being such a gentleman by holding the door. Then I turn around and shut the door at the last minute. /s
(but I do hate when I or someone else is trying to be polite, and the distance is too far and it makes it awkward and the one person feels the need to hurry up as if they can’t open the door themselves lol)
I do it too. I was raised that it’s actually rude to let the door close on someone that’s right by you when you are going in or out.
I hold the door for everyone đ
To me itâs just a respectful thing to do
Im a 68 year old woman who holds the door open for anyone closely following me.
I hold doors for everyone. I open the car doors for my partner, even. đ¤ˇââď¸
As someone whoâs nearly 20 years older than you, I think itâs a testament of how you were raised. Woman or not, manners is something a lot of people lack nowadays. I say that as someone who believes in chivalry⌠but having common courtesy is one step above the rest. Itâs the same as saying please and thank you or telling someone to enjoy their day. Iâm a woman in my mid 40âs and I hold the door for anyone coming and going alongside me. Although I do tell my children (who are all now legal adult men) to open the door for a lady (me when we are together) and that has been a lesson that surpassed chivalry and common courtesy to everyone.
You are a good kindhearted soul. Keep holding doors and smiling at strangers and pass this along to your kids or close friends. It doesnât make you weird. It makes you a step above those who dismiss others. Common courtesy is a lost art and be proud youâve been instilled with this.
Na not weird, I call everyone sir regardless of how much younger than I they are
Weired? No. Polite? Yes. Thank you.
It dosent matter, its just polite.Â
Not weird at all! I do it no matter age or gender. What I find weird is when people donât say thank you in return!!!!!
Not at all .. I do this as well for anyone walking up to a door as I enter or exit. I even let them go first.. it’s polite and respectful!
Youâre being polite. Why would that be weird?
I didnt know not doing this was an option. Im way too socially anxious not to hold the door for someone wtf
nah thatâs just called being a decent human, rare trait these days
Hold doors for people. Donât be an asshole.
You make the World a bester place, not weird at all đ