I, 21f, share my location with my bf, 24m (together a year) and he shares it with me. I mentioned it to my older sister and she said it’s weird and then I mentioned it to my parents in conversation and they also laughed and said it’s a weird thing to do.
We are medium distance (like 2h of a drive, same country) and we don’t live together yet. We see each other on weekends.
Now my question is, is it really weird to share location with each other or is this just a my generation thing that older ppl don’t understand?
Tl;DR: is it weird I’m sharing my location with my boyfriend?
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Why do you need to track anyone’s location? Where they are isn’t important to you.
Like, at all times? Like using the gps in your phones to transmit your locations 24/7?
Help me out here, I’m an older generation.
It’s not weird if it works for you.
I don’t think it is weird at all. My partner and I share our locations. Primarily, I use it to check when she’ll be home from work so I can coordinate dinner. I also share my location with some friends.
As long as you aren’t looking at it 24/7 and obsessing over everything your boyfriend is doing, you are fine.
Yes couples who location share are fucking weird. It’s such an American phenomenon. Absolutely not the normal or done thing most other places.
This is one of those things that is incredibly specific to the couple. My wife and I have had location sharing turned on since early dating years but it was more convenience than anything. Is one of us still at work, is one of us at the store, and the biggest one she can help me find my phone. Idk we ticked it on so long ago and use it so infrequently I don’t think about it till I need it.
We share our locations. I have severe anxiety so like to check he’s home safe, especially after nights out. We live about 4 hours from each other. Also, if it works for your relationship, it doesn’t matter what others think.
This seems to be a generational thing, I’ve heard of lots of younger people doing this by default. I’m in my 30s and don’t get it, but it wasn’t really possible in my early 20s the way it is now, let alone normal, so I didn’t get used to it at a young age and chafe at the idea of surveillance like that. To me it feels violating and like a lack of privacy and trust. But I also think as long as it isn’t being used to inspire or justify possessive/jealous behaviors in either of you, it probably doesn’t matter that much as a relationship issue.
Tbf it’s not rare. I know couples, families and even some friend groups that share their locations on apps such as life360. For a multitude of reasons.
The main thing for me is what the reason behind it is. Is it for safety? Is it for convenience such as one’s home earlier than the other so they see where their partner are to see when they should start cooking dinner for example? Or is it out of fear and jealousy?
Because my friends done it before with his partner. And it was fine, they barely looked at it for more than 2 minutes in a day. But I had another friend who did it with her boyfriend and she was constantly on the app watching and tracking him to the point if he took a detour or went down a different road she’d stress and it became obvious why she wanted to use it.
Not weird at all. My bf and I do the same thing and I love being able to see how close he is to home or whatever
It’s only weird if one or both of you is doing it to monitor movements and be controlling of what you do with your time
Not weird at all for me and my husband. I feel safer personally. I have long commutes to work, and some of those areas are dead zones. If my husband can see where I last was, he could try to reach me. Plus I like to see how far away he is so I can start making dinner, prepare whatever, etc.
My ex and I shared it with each other, didn’t have any issues. Mostly just kept track of how far the other was to start dinner prep and stuff.
Also for safety so someone knows where we are when either her or I was out alone.
As long as you both prefer to do so, and it’s not about controlling or a lack of trust but instead about “let me tell you about my day through this medium”, then I’d say it’s healthy and cute.
And above all I’d say that you should do what feels good for you, regardless of the opinions of the internet. We’re not in that relationship, you guys are.
It’s not weird, but it is common for abusers to demand this as a condition for any kind of trust, and it can be part of their manipulation. So that might be where your family is coming from.
If you two are choosing to do that freely, that’s much different. Context matters.
I think this depends on the couple. I will say that I’d find it more normal for a married couple or people who cohabitate and have been together a while. But I mean hey, whatever works.
I track my mom bc I’m nosy (yes I’m a whole ass adult) but I never check my husband’s location for some reason lmao
I do think it could be generational. I have the location of my immediate family, cousins, husband, and best friends. My old best friend thinks it’s crazy that we all have and want eachothers locations but I just like it for practical reasons 😅
My mom never looks at my dad’s location but loves having ours and she certainly over does looking at our locations 😂