Me (20m) and my girlfriend (19f) have been together for two years and a half, we have conflicts like any other couple, but this time it feels a lot different to me and my person. About two weeks ago she told me about how she has been seeing on instagram reels about how the moon landing is fake, I thought it was funny and we debated about it in a funny and playful way, I kept pointing out how it wouldn’t make sense because of this and that, we left it at that we agree to disagree, but recently she has told me that she also believes that there is a dome around the flat earth, that the ice wall is real, that the moon landing was faked, and tonight she recently told me that she isn’t sure where airplanes go, I wasn’t even sure what she meant by that, she keeps telling me to watch the reels that she sends me but I just can’t bring myself to it, and it makes me feel sad that she is turning into this. I even made a bet with her as a joke that by the end of the week she will believe in reptilians as well, and to be honest, I don’t think it’s a joke anymore. When I was younger I used to watch all of those theories but I kind of grew out of them, right now I just feel alone and that she isn’t who I thought she was, I feel horrible for thinking this, but I feel like she isn’t as smart as I thought she was, I don’t know if to push through this together, to break up with her, I honestly don’t know what to do? TLDR: I don’t feel the same way towards my girlfriend after she started to believe every theory she sees on instagram reels.
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It is sad; she’s getting further and further away from reality. I’m sorry. Sometimes I think this kind of addiction to conspiracy theories calls for a deprogrammer. Maybe look into books about cult survivors. I hope she breaks free of her dreamworld.
It’s weird that you haven’t broken up with her.
I’d also be sad if I found out that my partner has zero intelligence.
How could you feel the same way about her? She clearly has no critical thinking capacity. Who would want to be with someone like that.
You’re young. If I were in your shoes, I would not want to spend my life with someone who lacks critical thinking skills, or in this case basic common sense.
Imagine in the future you two have kids, will she be against vaccinations because of conspiracy theories? What if a kid gets sick, will she be against getting proper medical treatment in favor of some homeopathic treatment?
Thinking the moon landing was fakes can be swept under the rug, it doesn’t really impact much, but going too far down that conspiracy rabbit hole can definitely be a deal breaker.
she’s either extremely impressionable and gullible, going through psychosis or just straight up stupid
I think you do know, this is not sustainable. You can’t possibly date someone this crazy.
You just aren’t ready to accept that yet, because you still love her.
But give it some time. And it will sink in that there is no longer a future here.
I’m so sorry man. This sucks.
Mental issues are never pleasant.
oof. thats rough. id be really sad and disappointed too if someone that close to me fell for shills like that
Yeah it really sucks losing people to this. They live in a completely different world. So sorry.
For what it’s worth, I don’t think everyone who falls into this are lacking in intelligence. But everyone who falls into this finds comfort in the misinformation.
Quick update: I just spent the past like 2 to 3 hours watching every reel she sent me and debunking every piece to it, hopefully it will do something
why is everybody hating on OP with all these downvotes on his comments? he loves his girlfriend and is obvious that he wants her to change.