Is it wrong that I fantasize about my boyfriend to the point of obsession every single day?

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My 40mboyfriend and I28f have a great sex life. Like sex every other day (as he needs at least a 1 day break). On the days we don’t have sex or even right after sex with him. I will watch sex tapes of us we’ve made in the past and just focus on him and get myself off looking at him in those videos. I also have sex dreams about him as well and I often get distracted during the day thinking of our sex and will quickly look at nudes of him while at work. I have never told him this as I feel he may be freaked out by me because I feel this may be a bit obsessive? As I’m clearly sexually objectifying him. As a man or woman would you be freaked out by your partner being this obsessed with you? Or Is this something I should continue keeping to myself.

Comments

  1. LargeGiraffe731 Avatar

    I think you should bring in another woman you trust and make the sex really fun

  2. UniqueButts Avatar

    I’d imagine it won’t bother him at all. He’ll probably enjoying knowing that.

  3. DrFrankSaysAgain Avatar

    How long have you been together?

  4. BauranGaruda Avatar

    No, it is not wrong to be in to your partner. As long as you respect his boundaries and accept a “no” gracefully you two are fine.

  5. FlaxFox Avatar

    As long as you’re respecting his boundaries and it isn’t affecting you negatively, I think you’re fine.

  6. APixelWitch Avatar

    There is no need to tell him. It would give me the ick. But dating someone in their 20s when I was in my 40s would give me a permanent ick anyway.

  7. Jazz_Man9 Avatar

    Ok lots going on here !!!! 1 st of all keep that to yourself
    2 nd .maybe think about sex therapy only because I can see some long thoughts but every day and All day to obsession. How are you working ??Now you have an extremely high libido for a woman . But here’s another question
    Not judging ok.. Why .. why are you with a man 12 yrs older than you . Find a younger 26-29 year old that can match your desire . Not saying he isn’t . Not saying you 2 aren’t getting along great

    But I been there 12 yrs too big of a gap to have that much in common . When he was 12 you weren’t born yet just saying as he gets older you will notice that age difference I did .
    What’s your end game ???

    Just date and have sex
    Engagement
    Marriage .. was he married. Now divorced with kids

    I only digressed bcuz I feel my life experience can help maybe yes or not but it’s my opinion