For context, I am 20F and my boyfriend is 22M. We both lost our virginity to each other, and this is a new field for us. We do long distance too, so we get to meet each other for 2 weeks every 2 months.
Whenever my boyfriend comes over, it would always be him who brings up the topic of doing it. I have no desire to do it, hence, resulting in never bringing it up. But when he’s gone, my sexual needs rise up again.
This much be too much information by now, but I need things off my chest. Everytime we do it, it would last max 5 minutes, and I can’t finish it every time. My boyfriend is kind of on the heavier side (not that there’s anything wrong with it), and has quite low stamina. I think I have more stamina than he. Every time, it would end because he’s out of breath and can’t continue anymore.
He mentioned something about having erectile dysfunction because he doesn’t exercise, but I don’t know if that’s true or if it’s just an excuse. I have brought up this topic with him, urging him to do some workouts, because he seriously gets tired fast, even at daily activities, and I’m just left behind, very active. He said he would go to the gym, but I don’t actually see that happening.
I know I have the sexual drive, but it disappears whenever I’m with him. By all means, he’s a good boyfriend. Makes me happy, takes me out on dates, and we would call everyday too. But, this has been on my mind, and I want some advice.
TLDR: Boyfriend can’t satisfy my needs due to low stamina, but is a good boyfriend. Need tips on how to continue with this.
Note: I’m posting in my other burner account because my boyfriend knows about my reddit account.
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I don’t think it’s wrong, sexual compatibility is really important, check out /r/deadbedrooms if you need motivation to never end up on that sub lol. Life is too short for bad sex.
> my boyfriend is 22F.
Your boyfriend is a 22 year old woman?
Has he seen a doctor? He’s so young and it’s not really typical to get tired after normal daily activities. Lots of medical conditions can cause fatigue, though. It’s OK to break up with someone if you’re sexually incompatible, but in this case, I’d encourage him to get checked out by a doctor to see if this is a fixable issue.