Basically my ex and I have re connected a lot on and off over the past four years after dating in high school briefly, and we always were extremely rocky and had a lot of problems, specifically her needing to do whatever she wants (talk to guys) and me spiraling about it. This time around as always we agreed to not talk to other people romantically and stuff which I have held up obviously. It started off fine this time and she seemed attached to me again and it was nice, but after a month or two she started snapping other guys a lot and very very quickly started actually talking to one or several. I mean like constantly for an hour at a time they’d be engaging while she’d go cold and ignore me. She told me, upon my confronting it, that it’s okay to talk to people romantically and she can do what she wants, switching up the rules when it fits her. She two weeks ago told me she is exploring others romantically and because she’s going through a hard time I need to stay friends with her while she does it or else I’m all sorts of bad things I won’t list here. But now, suddenly after I agreed to stay under conditions, she is saying she is not texting anybody or talking to anyone at this moment besides me. While her snap activity is like once again online for 30 minutes straight at a time, on and off constantly, snap score going up +1 or +2 during these, like personal seeming, etc. She tells me that this activity spike is due to her looking at herself in the camera (for 40 minutes straight) or watching stories, and that the snap scores are her leaving people on read. I would believe this if that was ever a pattern she’s done before, but it isn’t. The only time it’s been like this was when she was talking to others. But I just don’t know because she is confusing and is dealing with a hard personal time right now so like maybe she’s being honest and is just aimlessly online? I have no idea what to think anymore but I feel like I’m not being told the truth to.
TLDR: Ex girlfriend and I reconnected, she says she isn’t talking to anyone else but is active on Snapchat for long periods at a time and constantly on and offline while not replying to me, and is mysteriously snapping in personal seeming +1 or +2 increases during them. She tells me it is due to leaving people on open and scrolling through stories, but I fear I’m being lied to.
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