I (F32) have been with my husband (M30) for 12 years.
Yesterday, I posted my first ever Reddit post – I’ve been a passive user for a few years but rarely interact. My only past interactions were upvoting and commenting on what my husband posts.
When I checked the activity on my profile to see if I had gotten any comments on my post, I came across my husband’s profile from our previous interactions. I decided to take a look at his posts/comments without thinking too much of it – he was actually sitting right across from me.
To my surprise, I saw a comment he made about a year ago on an 18+ NSFW post where the OP said something like, “Comment on this post and I’ll send a sex tape of myself,” along with a fully exposed picture of herself. He had commented a “.” on it, just like many others did.
When I asked him about it, he repeatedly said he didn’t recognize the post, had never seen it, and never commented on it. He said it must’ve been a glitch or that his account was hacked or something. We checked his login activity, and there was no activity from other devices, only his own. I also pointed out that it seemed very unlikely to be a hack – why would someone hack his account just to make a single comment on a NSFW post?
After some back and forth, I accepted the “glitch” explanation, as he’s never given me any reason to doubt him before (his phone is always lying around, we know each other’s screen passwords, etc. – nothing suspicious).
Today, though, I’m second-guessing myself. I’m not very tech-savvy, while he is. I’m thinking: if he wanted to hide something from me, he would definitely be able to. So now I’m wondering – is this something he does regularly and just forgot to delete this one? Or did he maybe use the wrong Reddit account by accident and not realize it? Are those kinds of glitches actually common, or did he just slip?
(Mind you, I don’t mind if he watches porn – that’s never been an issue for us. My hard boundary, however, is interacting with women in porn – like through OnlyFans, for example, or in this case, via Reddit. I consider that cheating.)
What do you think?
Thanks!
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You’re not overreacting. That tiny comment carries intent, and the fact that he lied and blamed a ‘glitch’ is worse than the actual comment. You’ve been together for 12 years – you deserve honesty, not a tech excuse.
The glitch excuse is a complete lie, that doesn’t make any sense. I’ve had a Reddit account for years and I’ve never had this happen. Definitely seems like he slipped and wasn’t as careful as he usually is? I’m sorry you had to find out like this OP.
Yeah honestly he’s lying.
It wasn’t a glitch.
Put his username in here: https://search.pullpush.io
You’ll be able to see if there’s any deleted comments so you can stop wondering.
Edited to add: also, yeah, he’s lying.
He got caught, and he’s going to deflect blame on one one or thing, but him. I’m honestly surprised he hasn’t turned it around on you somehow. He commented on it. Doesn’t matter if he fucked up and used the wrong account, the proof is right there on your screen. And l jsyk, if someone deletes their comment, it still shows up in their comment history, but you can no longer read what it would’ve been as it’d be just blank. So if he’d deleted others, you’d still see the subs and profiles that the comments were left on. I’m sorry this is happening to you.