We met at work. Basically all the guys would harass her and I wouldn’t, so naturally we’d spend alot of time together. We work long hours so naturally we’d talk for extended times and during these times we realized we have alot in common from how we grew up, childhood trauma, similar personalities, dark humor, sarcasm, know what each other is thinking, music, movies, the way we view the world.. over time we have actually became really close friends and tell each other everything, and we have always kept things close from other people. We are in relationships with other people. We’ve remained committed even though it seems like in both of our relationships it seems we are the only ones trying. We’ve never crossed any physical lines and have never tried to. This past month has been very hard for both of us and our significant others seem to not want to help either of us so naturally we’ve had to be there more than usual for each other. One night during our conversations the idea that not that long ago we never even knew each other and would never had met otherwise and now we couldn’t imagine not having each other. We both agreed we felt that way. We also said we believed we met for a reason and that we felt that way.
Fast Forward a week later, she’s off work, im at work. We of course are texting all day and I notice I have about an hours worth of work and im done. We make plans to have lunch after im done. She shows up looking better than ive ever seen her. Like you can tell she put forth alot of effort. We wind up turning an hour lunch into 4 hours just talking in her car. I noticed she’s playing songs on her Spotify like “i was made for loving you” by kiss, “crazy little thing called love” by queen and “living on a prayer” by bon jovi and they keep repeating and she “doesn’t know why” ( i know she knows how Spotify works). The topics go from work stuff to her tumultuous love life to her not knowing if anyone can handle her personality(she’s kinda adhd, and alot of people can’t handle it but obviously it doesn’t bother me). I tell her that I obviously think she’s great. I tell her this last month has been horrible but this has been the one time ive been happy and she gives me like that flattered look.
The thing is I know she would be an amazing wife and mother. And obviously i feel some way about her or I wouldn’t be posting this. The problem is she really is my best friend and id hate to lose that and of course we are involved with other people. Id hate to misread the situation and just ruin everything, but I dont want to ignore her hints either. I just dont know if she’s actually giving me hints or im just wishful thinking and overreacting. Im kinda at a loss and really dont know where else to go. Any help appreciated.
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Oh boy this could be the start of a limerence situation PLEASE don’t go down that road!! I’ve been there and it broke me… I’m better now but if I could go back I would think really hard about my current relationship and ask myself why is my eye wondering, talk out with my partner, and avoid that other person as much as possible until we figure our shit out!!!