My boyfriend M25 and I F20 have been dating for 4 months . Our relationship is still “new” but from the day I met him we instantly felt like we known each other forever. I am currently pregnant with his baby , but have found some kind of alarming stuff on his phone recently . We have a very open sex life or so i thought , he told me he wanted me to peg him and said he never done it before . I of course was very down for the idea as i’ve never done it before it to a man , but always wanted to . This isn’t the problem . I have talked about the idea of introducing a 3rd down the line and brought up the idea of a transgender female because that has always been something i wanted to explore , and who better to do it with then the love of my life who i feel comfortable with . He originally tried to say he doesn’t know , and if it would make me happy he would think about it (i love him for that ) ,,, butttt i went on his phone one day after getting a weird feeling about maybe thinking he was gay bc he 1) has been to jail plenty of times 2) he was REALLY into the anal and putting on quiet a show and 3) He follows a lot of gay men , and trans people on instagram (which isn’t a problem for me i love how he isn’t homophobic like most men) but it did ring a few alarms for me . WELLLLL anyways i went on a website we both talked about before that we had when we were single (fetlife) and on there i found messages of him only texting men and trans females . this was a week before we met .. i have no problem if that’s what he is interested in , but i have indeed brought it up multiple times prior to knowing about this past if he is ,, and just thought it woulda be brought up yk?? so i asked him about it , i wasn’t mad at him but was honesty disappointed he kept that from me considering he isnt one to be embarrassed about it with me. he swears he only went on a date with one trans female , and NOTHING happened. but it is kinda hard to believe . The text between the people on their were very sexual and all about anal . so i guess my question is what do i do ?? i honestly feel like he does love me a lot , but i am scared im not actually what he wants and is using me as a cover for his family and friends , while he secretly does his thing on the side .
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Dm me i have some thoughts
Maybe he’s just bi and never told you? It does sound alarming but it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not what he wants
Babe he is not straight lol. He is probably still coming to terms with that. You can’t make him admit to you if he hasn’t even admitted it to himself. He’s probably pan. Straight men don’t do any of that stuff. Also Jail is completely unrelated to his sexuality lol.
Regardless you have your answer so maybe just let him figure it out, maybe he’s just not into labels and you can make things so much worse by questioning him about it all. I recommend dropping the topic