So for some context we started arguing Friday because he made plans with his friends for Sunday knowing we had plans and he ditched me. I was mad at him for two days straight. I’m not to sure what happened but then I started to feel over the relationship. I usually get this phase whenever I feel like my feelings aren’t being validated. He’s been playing the game a lot as well so he’s been acting different wanting to spend more time with his friends on the game than with me. He said he loves me but if he loves me wouldn’t he want to spend time with me. He said that this week work has been ruff since his co worker called off and his manager isn’t there and that he’s sorry if he’s been boring. I’m not to sure what to do. Am I being delusional yes or no?
Is my bf (M20) cheating on me (F21)?
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I mean, there’s no evidence of cheating so I wouldn’t say he was but he clearly doesn’t quite have his priorities straight if he cancelled your plans that were already arranged to go out with his friends. That’s not fair.
Heyyyyy.
Hmm, maybe there is any middle ground in “wanting to spend some time with friends” equals “doesn’t love me” equals “cheating on me”? Are there any other explanations for his behavior be aside from the worst case?
Your feelings of feeling deprioritized are totally valid.
But maybe you could acknowledge and describe your needs, request that he meet them, and then negotiate what compromises you would both accept?
I think the only thing here is him making other plans knowing you already had some, and in your case your feelings are valid. Otherwise, i don’t see any evidence of cheating or anything that out of the ordinary.
As a guy, sometimes it is good to hop on the game with your mates to decompress after a days work. During the week, i don’t think forcing time to hangout is healthy as it sort of feels like a chore. I find it better to just live life together, cook dinner together maybe go for a walk and then do your own things and in his case is playing the game. But i also think its pretty important to do something in the weekends.
All I have to read is the title for these posts and then ask, “have you talked to him about it?” But seriously if you have a significant other just talk to them about things that concern you. If you can’t have these discussions, maybe you shouldn’t be together in the first place
Yes he is
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