Ok so for context. We are close friends that started dating about 4 months ago and we just came back from a holiday apart (we are both 19). And he (M 19) always insists that Im (F 19) gorgeous and hot and yadayada. Ive often gone to hangout in his room because I want to cuddle before going to bed (we live in a dorm together).
The last couple times Ive done this he’s very gently reminded me to go to bed after a brief hangout (me not even mentioning that I wanted to sleep) and suggested that he walk me back to my room. Except then when Im out the door, he’ll say, “I won’t walk you to your room or I’ll just end up kissing you there.” Which to me feels like just saying whatever he can to justify not bothering to walk me back.
I wouldn’t be bothered if he had never done this before. Like early in our relationship we would stay up soo late making out and chatting, and despite understanding when I said firmly that I was going to bed, he was otherwise very eager to keep me in his room. And also he goes to bed sooo much later than me so im definitely not keeping him from sleeping.
I worry that because we are such close friends and Im like desired in our friend group I guess, that he’s staying with me cause it’s logical.
Furthermore, I recently chopped like 6 inches off my hair which all my friends noticed an he hasn’t indicated in anyway that he noticed.
I really dont want to come off as clingy and needy.
So chat is my bf still into me?
TL;DR; : my boyfriend (M 19) seems to be less into me after coming back from holiday 4 months into our relationship. Help?
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You started off this post by saying you’re close friends as well as partners, which is great.
In this instance, I would say the best course of action is to ask him if something is up. You don’t need to frame it in a way where you’re clingy, like you said. But smth as small as “hey recently we have been hanging out a lot less/for less time, and you aren’t walking me back to my room anymore, is smth on your mind? Anything I can help you with? Just want to make sure you’re all good”
The issue here is it could be a multitude of things.. it could be nothing, it could be that he has a lot going on right now and he’s stressed, troubles with family weighing on him, something happened on holiday that stressed him out, the list goes on. Aside from this, you didn’t mention anything else in your post, so I’m going to assume the relationship itself is good aside from this recent issue.
Overall though, you’re 4 months in, so you want to just ask and figure out what’s going on. Not saying anything is relationship ending bad, but if it is, you’d rather know at 4 months instead of 2 years for example.
That’s my honest advice (I’m a man) and if my gf said smth like this to me I wouldn’t take it as clingy or anything like that. I’d take it as she noticed a change in my behavior and is asking me if smth is wrong/can she help. And I’d happily have the convo.
Good luck