25F. A male superior at work who I’m guessing is in his 80’s has been making me feel a little…off. I usually only have 1-2 brief and normal conversations with him on the days I’m in office but once in a while he’ll throw in a compliment here and there based on my physical appearance and once even referenced me looking “fit.” Then today when my boss happened to be at home, he stopped by my desk to talk to me 5 times, casually asked if I still had a bf (I haven’t had an official bf in over a year and can’t remember the last time I would’ve mentioned something like that), and he came back in after forgetting his keys only to say “see what you do to me?”. I immediately felt weird especially because he seems to look down at my body when talking to me…
It’s possible I’m interpreting things the wrong way but I just feel kinda gross about it 🙃 very sick of men recently.
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I’m someone who has a really strong ‘gut feeling response.’ These responses have saved my life more than once.
With that being mentioned, I believe your gut feeling is absolutely correct. Your coworker/supervisor is completely out of line and is being inappropriate, probably assuming you won’t say anything at the risk of being dismissed and or getting some form of retaliatory action.
Are you able to talk to HR about this? It is sexual harassment and should be dealt with as such.
Creeps don’t stop being creeps when they get old. Trust your gut, and don’t let his age play on your sympathy because they use that to their advantage.