I need advice. I’ve known for a while that my husband watches porn which doesn’t really bother me as long as it’s basic videos/porn sites. But I’ve lately had a nagging feeling that he is doing more. I recently went through his phone which I never do and found some of the following websites in his browser history:
Strip chat
All porn comic
Our AI dream
Chaturbate
E porner
Livejasmine
Anyone have any experience with these sites? I have no idea how to find out if he’s actually chatting with women or taking it a step further than just watching videos! Any advice? Thanks
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I think you first need to define cheating. Watching porn you are ok with because there is no emotional connection with the women he’s watching. Chatting with them now adds a layer to things. If he is chatting/getting emotionally connected, is that now cheating.
I’m not sure about the sites but some of them do allow to you chat with each other for a cost. Check your back records to see if he’s posting to chat. Then do you consider the fact that the women are egging him on for money (really no true feelings from her end as she just wants the money).
What’s missing from your relationship that makes him go to these sites? Is there anything you both can talk about to resolve that?
Those sites pop up as an ad in a different webpage browser when watching porn
Check his credit card statements and phone records.
Watching porn is not cheating, let him do that or otherwise… just spend more active time in bed together so that he‘s not tempted to watching porn anymore 😉
Definitely do some investigating, then have a very blunt conversation about boundaries and respect. If you are ok with him visiting these websites but don’t want him chatting then tell him it makes you uncomfortable and disrespected. Explain to him plainly why it makes you feel that way and ask if he’s willing to stop. If he says no or pushes back then he’s definitely doing something he shouldn’t be. If he says he will only visit certain sites and no longer explore sites you don’t know then problem solved. Maybe suggest watching them together, ask if there is something that interests him the most? Try to turn this into something you can explore together so you don’t feel like he’s doing this without you. Maybe show him something your interested in or want to try. Make this into something you can share together and bring you closer. Good luck
If he is just watching videos, he’s not cheating. Some of those sites allow chatting, but most are with women for money. Is it cheating? To me, it is getting a feel of how to approach people. Kinda of an education on how to interact with others. Is this cheating? To me, it’s one step closer due to the fact there’s intime communications between two people. I call it cheating when it goes physical. Meeting sex that’s cheating. Depending on how long you all been married and action in the love life depends if he wants to cheat or is just needing more on the fantasy end to get to the end. I suggest you guys have a conversation about what’s going on. Maybe lay out some rules on what you’re ok with him being on aka porn sites videos not camming these kinds of things. If you think it’s because you guys love life is in a rut, then spice things up. Like be waiting in bed for him in something sexy dirty talk send nudes to him while at work. Tell things you want to do with him(new things). How can you get this started? Have him catch you watching porn or be in bed and put some on your phone and be hey, I’ve been watching this and it looks great watch it with me. Sorry for the long post hope it helps.
If he’s into live streaming … it’s a real gray area. These girls (and I assume guys too) are basically hookers. But there’s no actual contact. And I doubt there’s much of an emotional one either. It’s all transactional. Still, I can see where it would creep you out. Good luck sorting through this.
That depends on how you define it but people on these stream websites are very much business people. They’re there to make money. Showing their body & talking dirty is their trade. They do not form relationships with the people watching, no matter how much they tip.
All of the pages you mentioned are also very common on pop-up ads so unless he was exploring them extensively, then it’s possible he just accidentally visited them.
All the mentions of AI make me think that he is chatting but not to real women. To AI
I’m never one to just defend but I watch porn pretty regularly when I’m on my own and the chat/sniffies/local single stuff pops up damn near every time you click a video so… it’s not very likely. Now, if it’s not preceded by the normal stuff, I might be concerned. And also, sometimes you do have to trust your gut until you find the actual thing.
Those are pop-ups from accessing porn sites. It doesn’t necessarily mean he’s been venturing away from said porn site
No he’s paying to rub one out .not cheating just means he’s normal .maybe see if he needs you to join in .could be fun
The only way you will find out if he’s been talking to/cheating via porn sites is to ask him. You won’t find anything on his Internet history if he visits porn sites frequently due to the amount of random pop-ups that are random.
I wish you well and hope he’s not addicted to porn