Reposting here as this is a relationship issue: Long story short, we should have thought the decision more and getting a puppy ended up breaking our relationship due to my mental health and his work schedule.
His mother took our girl and we decided to take it slow again and live apart. She has told us recently she cannot look after her anymore and that we have to consider our options. He is refusing to talk to me about any other option apart from us moving back in together. He only wants me to move back in for this reason and he WORD FOR WORD said the choice of us keeping her all hangs on me because I wfh. He has not regarded my feelings at all, and will not listen.
Our relationship got very bad and we had split up. He keeps saying it will be better this time. I got very mentally unwell last time and was losing the will. I wish we could keep her too but my health and our relationship got in a bad way. I thought we were a team? Why isn’t he listening to my perspective? I just need to know if I’m being unreasonable here.
I would like to reiterate that this was our mistake. We love her and it is NOT her fault, she is innocent and got dragged into this
TL;DR: we both got a puppy at the wrong time, I got really bad mental health problems and he’s hardly home, but he wants me to move back in and look after her. Won’t consider other options.
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fr it aint about culture or smth its straight up emotional immaturity and u shouldnt be stuck explaining his nonsense
“I want a puppy but you have to do all the work” makes him the least attractive man in the world.
You both got the puppy together, regardless of what happens with the relationship you are both responsible for her. It’s not fair of him to expect you to care for her alone and it’s not a good reason to move back in.
In your shoes, if you’re not able to I would focus on finding the dog a new home with someone who has space for her.
It’s not going to get better with him. When it comes to long-term and permanent life decisions, any partner who doesn’t work with you to find a solution that works for BOTH of you, and doesn’t consider your feelings in addition to theirs, makes for a terrible partner. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.