I’ve been thinking a lot about the link people often make between promiscuity and disloyalty. I’m wondering—can someone enjoy a more adventurous or “wild” phase in life and still be completely loyal in a long-term relationship?
Is promiscuity always associated with disloyalty in relationships?
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Promiscuity is not a determining factor as to whether someone will be loyal. I was promiscuous when I was young (it was the 70s) but I’ll kill or die for someone I love.
Promiscuity in the past, maybe not. Promiscuity in the current relationship is a problem.
No those are not linked indeed, as long as we are not talking about cheating or leading somebody on (those two things I do associate with disloyalty in relationships)
Not always… Because there are relationships with promiscuity where both acknowledge that and is consented
Can somebody have a promiscuous past / phase and then be loyal in a relationship. Absolutely. However you will definitely have people judging you for it if they find out and potentially lose out on relationships for it too.
Some people won’t care at all, some will be completely put off and others will be 50/50. I’d say there’s definitely a stigma/view though that if you’ve had a promiscuous past, that your less likely to be able to commit long term to a partner. How much truth there is to that however is another matter.
It’s entirely possible that one who enjoys great variety and a degree of unstrict standards when it comes to sexual partners will get bored in a long term monogamous relationship and seek extracurricular activity without their partner’s knowledge.
Yes, many people are completely loyal when in long term monogamous relationships, and promiscuous and less selective when not. But, if a person who is more selective and less promiscuous with romantic/sexual partners when not in a long term monogamous relationship is seeking one, it’s better for them to get with a person who has those same tendencies, and a promiscuous partner with a high “body count” probably isn’t the best match.