we’ve been around 4 months together. we met only once, and were in some kind of a LDR for now. not officially in a “relationship”, but were planning to get in one next year. due to our competitive exams next year, we used to talk maybe once in 2-3 weeks.
it was all going good. but yesterday i got a call. it was from her.
she doesn’t wanna continue as she didn’t saw a future between both of us.
she feels that she never had feelings for me. she was, and is confused. she sees me the same as her female best friend, who was with her in tough times.
and now, she doesn’t wanna continue, as she feels that the feeling was never romantic and it’s not worth it for the future.
from the start, she was the one who couldn’t express or understand her emotions. and i feel that she did have feelings for me, but is actually confused.
maybe this is due to the “infatuation phase” getting over?
i feel that this is just a phase, she’s just confused about her emotions. it’s nothing new too.
she said she would feel “awkward” about romantic things with me. to an extent maybe i’d too, as it’s the first time for both of us. we both have never experienced all these things too.
yes, i’m living in denial. but i don’t want this to end, she doesn’t want too.
she cried a lot at the end of the call. in fact, me too.
i told her to text me when she gets free, and i’m thinking to clear all this, that she’s just confused and it’s just a phase.
but i really need to understand all this before that. is it really just a phase? is she just confused?
i really need advice on this from people.
TL;DR 4 months together, now she feels that it won’t work as she never had feelings. thinking to text her again clearing her confusion.
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She’s not confused, it was just hard for her to tell you and let you down. Her prior “confusion” about her emotions may very well have been moreso a confusion about how to properly articulate her feelings, or mustering the courage to express her true feelings, or how to advocate for what she really wants.
You’re better off taking her words at face value so that you don’t waste anymore time or energy, and so that you don’t keep getting your heart re-broken by talking someone into being with you when they don’t want to be. Go start the healing process so that you can find someone who’s as into you as you’re into them.