This will be long so please bear with me…
My mom has a lot of trauma from her childhood and she never really wanted to do better.
My mom would tell my brother and I as children about all her marital problems, she always went bat shit crazy if we did not do what she wanted (still does) but I moved to Germany at 20 to get away from her. I am Mexican btw and have built a wonderful life here in Germany. I have wonderful friends and I wonderful husband whom i had a baby with 5 months ago.
Two years ago i was no contact with her but i missed my brother and dad who I could not talk to if I did not talked to her. My brother swore that my mom changed and I believed it for a while. Even when my baby boy was born she came to visit and she did not break any of my rules but now he is 5 months and is getting creepy.
She tells me i should leave him with her next year. I told her no I can’t do that. She said
(Well is my grandchild) to what I replied yes but he is my son. She then said ( yeah but you are going back to work anyway) Yes mother but I can’t just leave my child alone in mexico. She doesn’t live in reality, so much so that my husband and I made a will. If we were to die, David goes to our best friends who I know will love him as their own. We 100% trust them and love them and would do the same for their little girl who we adore.
Anyway i will baptize my son and my mom bother me soooo much until I let her be the godmother. She did not care I already had someone else and I didn’t want to start a fight so i said yes. She has been so excited and i asked her why does she want it so badly and she said.
(Well if you were to die. Hopefully not! I would keep david as my son) my hands got cold, I told my husband that’s very creepy and i am actually very afraid. Good thing she is far away and i just made an audio and told her that Godmothers are only there for the spiritual and I already made a will with my husband so our son goes to our best friends.
All hell will break loose… she is going to be pissed… but there is nothing i would not do for my baby.
She is fucking delulu…
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If she thinks that as godmother she would get your child if anything should happen, I would not make her godmother. If I were you, I would make your friends who are going to be guardians, the godparents. If she is truly delusional, I could see her making trouble for them if they ever had to be her guardians. Don’t worry about her feelings, protect your child. Your friends could fight not only as guardians, but as godparents.
If you think there is a possibility that she might visit you and try to kidnap your child & go to Mexico, you can ask on /r/LegalAdviceEurope about precautions you can take. In the US, there are steps you can take to prevent international child abduction and I am sure there are similar programs in Europe.