I’ll probably put this at 18+ because idk how reddit systems work- this is my first post!!
Im F16, Ive been caught with self harm previously yet was being called selfish for it, recently ive felt worse about myself and was wondering is this was truely selfish if i were to kill myself. I have a baby brother but i just want to be free. Advice would be great also turns out idk how to 18+ things xD so its a spoiler now
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Framing suicide as a matter of selfishness is not productive because, as you noticed, it adds more shame and stigma to an incredibly difficult subject.
Self harm is not a good way to cope with life problems but they should not have shamed you for it. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
You’re not selfish for feeling this way. No one chose to be depressed/suicidal.
I would encourage you to seek therapy or professional help.
Well yes, if yoy have parents, just imagine how hurt and devastated they will be. Much more than you. Just live believing that it will get better, because it will, especially if you’ll seek help
I’d say no, the concept of suicide isn’t selfish. It’s your life and if you don’t want it anymore then you have bodily autonomy to end it. If anyone says it’s selfish to your kids, partners, parents etc… Well, they’re not wrong, but they’re also being really selfish for saying you should live for them, despite it not making you happy. Also, sometimes it’s okay to be selfish.
The only time I think a person is to blame in any way for their suicide is if they do it in a way that implicates someone else, like throwing yourself in front of a train. That person will forever have to bear the guilt of having taken a life, even though they won’t serve any time or consequence for it. That’s a horrible thing to live with and terribly cruel and selfish to put someone through.
Absolutely not and I’ll argue anyone who says yes are unhinged. Wtf. Suicidal thoughts are a sign you’re struggling and struggling is NOT selfishness, if anything you’re strong for fighting it and even selfless if you still think about your close ones in that period. You’re not being selfish OP, you need therapy and lots of hugs
I give you my point of view. I am a psychologist.
The suicidal person seen by others is seen as a coward or selfish person who wants to end his life because it is the easiest way to end everything. But that is false.
The suicidal person commits this act as a form of relief, as a way of not suffering anymore. But, be careful, your suffering will end, but that of your family and friends will begin, and will never end. Never.
Talk to a psychologist, because it is not a strange or unusual reason for consultation. Talk, vent and you will see how they give you guidelines and advice to alleviate what worries you in a more effective way. Good luck, you are not alone.
people that are depressed etc arent in the right state of mind so its no more selfish than having any other illness mental or otherwise. this isnt to invalidate what you are feeling. I was a child once with abusive parents and I know how it feels to wonder if I can continue on like this. but you wont be a child forever and when you become an adult you will have more agency over your life.
there was a study once where they talked to people that survived suicide attempts by jumping and every one of them said they regretted it the moment they jumped. today my life still isnt perfect ofc but i have good friends and hobbies etc that i would have regretted it if i had ended things then.
I think of suicide as a suffer of loneliness than selfishness bc it stems from difficulty with dealing with life as you carry so much pain (alone) and a lot of cases you discover (of from those I’ve seen) it’s from a time period of hopelessness.
Life is hard & long and even unbearable for some